“The greatest minds are like film, they take the negatives and develop themselves in darkness…” ~Brandi L. Bates
First watch the video clip (it’s about 3 minutes), then read the post. The video sets the context for the rest:
http://youtu.be/xXEGwVPjlI8
The possible metaphors here are almost endless. Three stand out for me.
1. We all have trash in our lives.
We can let it pile up, rot and decay. Or we can turn it into something beautiful.
There are parts of each of us that are not so pretty.
Perhaps it’s a temper or an attitude. Perhaps its pride or jealousy or selfishness or uncontrolled lust. Perhaps we criticize too much or complain too often or talk about others behind their backs.
Or maybe it’s the garbage of past wrongs, mistakes we’ve made, victims of bad parenting, low self-esteem, hatred, or abuse. Such things can bring us great pain, turning possibility and potential into trash heaps of despair.
But they don’t have too indefinitely. At least not at the incapacitating level they currently do. We can change them. We can adapt them. They can become stepping stones by which we climb higher than we ever thought possible. They can inspire us to make something beautiful of them. They can inspire us to turn them into the music of our lives.
2. There are people living around us who believe their very lives are garbage.
But we can choose to see them differently, as the music they haven’t yet scored. We can reach out and lift them and help them see themselves more clearly, as we see them, as God sees them, as they truly are. Some people can’t hear the music of their own lives above the droning, crushing emptiness of the garbage they only see everywhere they look. We can help them change that perspective.
3. Some of you may look in the mirror and see only trash.
But there is music inside you. A song of beauty and magnificence. It’s there waiting to be written, to be played, to be sung. All it takes is a new way of looking at the trash heaps in our lives. All it takes is some tuning. All it takes is to pick up what we have, whatever it is, however little it may compare to others, and begin to play. Get lost in your own music so that you no longer pay much attention to the music others are playing as a standard of comparison. Reshape and reform the trash into the very instruments that fill your life with the beauty of your own soaring music.
Purpose from Pain
A woman I know lost her son to a drunk driver three years ago. Every day she sees little reminders of him and falls to pieced. Then she heard about a group of people who volunteer at the court to educate those convicted of driving under the influence of the pain they can cause others. She reports that it has brought meaning to the meaningless, purpose to the painful, order to the chaos and a degree of tranquility to the emotional turmoil that has so gripped her life since that tragic day.
In other words, she has made music out of garbage.
Freedom from Humiliation
A man was once thrown from a train for being the wrong color in the wrong class compartment. A lesser man would have complied. Maybe complained or even wrote a letter to the editor of a local newspaper to retell the injustice. Then he would have likely gone about his daily business, complaining to his friends, reliving the humiliation, angry, frustrated and impotent. This man, however, fought back, unwilling to tolerate the social trash and personal garbage he was forced to experience. He turned garbage into music and freed a nation from imperial rule. His name was Gandhi.
Heaven from Hell
Another woman was raped. She was broken. Humiliated. Others were being raped in a country where life seemed to be descending into a living hell. So she started rounding up other rape victims and started helping them turn their garbage into music. In the process, her garbage was changed too. Her life is now a song that inspires countless others to live their own lives filled with more meaning and purpose. Her name is Malya Villard-Appolon. See her story here.
Garbage to Music
You see, it doesn’t really matter what the garbage in your life is. You can live with it and in it, burying yourself in its disease, absorbing its stink, reflecting it, consuming it, becoming it. Or you can turn it into music, one note, one word, one verse at a time.
I choose more music.
How about you?
YOUR TURN!
- What garbage still fills your life that you need to turn into music?
- What garbage are you currently turning (or have already turned) into music?
- How are you doing it?
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That sounds totally inspirational! A couple of years ago, I participated on an experimental music workshop in VIenna. We had to build musical instruments from the plastic parts we have found around the corner, and it was so much fun! YOu make make instruments from everything, and then you can put the sound samples together in a virtual studio software so you can make your own experimental sampled electronic music as well:)
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That’s awesome! Are you a musician? I’ve made some pretty simple instruments with rubber bands and boxes as a kid, but nothing that could actually produce the quality sound needed for anything recordable, at least not the way I played it! 😉
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Hope you’re still making music!
Hi Ken! Sorry for being late with the answer, but YES I am a musician. I’ve played the classical guitar and the piano for more than 10 years, when I switched to the computer and samplers/synthetizers and tried to create my own experimental electronic music. Inspired by Kraftwerk and Pink Floyd I really like experimenting with sound samples and digital editing.
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No worries. I was just curious. I play guitar and piano myself, but have forgotten most of what I used to play in my more dedicated youthful years. Still have lots of fun with them though.
Not familiar with Kraftwerk, but LOVE Pink Floyd.
I’ll look Kraftwerk up online tonight.
Hi Ken,
This is such important advice. I’ve seen this video and it’s wonderful!
In a way this is what I’m trying to do, though I don’t want Alex’s death to define me. I want his life to do that. So I applaud your message and soldier on.
Lori
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Thank you so much, Lori.
I just want you to know how very impressed I am with you. I admire you greatly. You have lost the flesh of your flesh, a wound no mother should ever have to sustain. To be able to even get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other is an admirable accomplishment. But you have done so much more than that.
I resonate so deeply with what you say about wanting Alex’s life, not his death to define you. I’m a religious person, but don’t wear a cross. My denomination doesn’t have the cross anywhere on its building either. The reason is the same you shared about Alex. We celebrate Christ’s life, not his death, even though we recognize the central importance of it to our theology.
So while the death happened and even sets the stage for other important events in Christianity, the life, the message, the example is what I hold to. I believe that’s a healthy way to celebrate a life and to mourn its passing. Death is an event. But life radiates outward, continues onward, lives in our souls and beats in our hearts as a beautiful commemoration of all that was alive in those we love.
I’m humbled to be have offered a timely message, Lori–both here and in last week’s article you linked to as well.
Yeah, Ken, it’s strange how you keep sending me messages!
What you said makes me wonder; did I start this blog for the purpose of getting through this, something I could never have known was coming? I had written 150 posts and was nearly 2 years in when he died. I don’t know what I would have done without LFI. (Post about that coming next month 😉 But also, hanging out in the Blogosphere has given me encouragement and pushed me to go on. How strange is all of this? It’s connected me to intuitives who reinforce what I already believe and teach me more. Without all of this I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed. It’s hard as it is to find a reason some mornings.
Thanks for your empathy Ken.
Lori
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I sometimes wonder what it will be like to look back on our lives after we pass on to see how much of it was orchestrated. Maybe orchestrated isn’t the right word. But how many of the choices we made were inspired by an eternal perspective (I would say God) that knew you would need the Porch and those of us who like to hang out there a couple years after creating it.
Certainly makes you wonder, right?
That’s exactly what I was wondering Ken. Exactly.
Lori
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The video reminded me of a scene in American Beauty where a troubled young man filmed a plastic bag in a garbage strewn alley being blown by the wind. The bag danced and twirled like a ballerina. It was really beautiful. And what powerful examples you have given of people turning all kinds of life garbage into music.
In my own life, I have been dealing with a difficult family situation. It has become the focus of my spiritual practice. I work with my feelings of fear and anger, to turn them into forgiveness and compassion. I try to see the gift in the circumstances and be grateful. And I try to use the situation to deepen my faith and my trust in God. And to practice my word of the year–Wait!
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I’ve never seen the movie, but I can envision what it may have looked like. Even trash can be beautiful depending on what we do with it or even how we look at it. Beautiful insight, Galen!
We have some garbage being strewn about in our extended family as well. It hurts when someone you love turns out very different in private than they were in public, especially when the private persona deeply hurts others in the family we love. We’re all at a loss as to what to do or even if there’s anything that can be done. The offenses fill the air at family get-togethers and fill conversations my wife and I have about the circumstances that have brought so much pain to beloved family members.
So I thank you deeply for sharing this with us here, Galen. You’ve inspired me to put my words to action and start looking for more compassionate ways of turning the trash of anger and resentment into something better.
Wow. This video is powerful, your message is inspiring. I was raised in chaos and abuse and that conditioning made for some pretty painful experiences through my early adult life. I use all of that in my work now. I wouldn’t wish to experience it again, but I also don’t wish it away because the depth of presence I am able to vest is a direct result of all that I had experienced.
I choose to listen to– and celebrate– the music…and I am reminded how significant each individual piece is for the beautiful harmony within the entire symphony. May each person recognize just how essential their presence is. Thank you for this beautiful affirmation!
Thanks so much, Joy! I first saw mention of people turning trash into music on Facebook. It got me curious, so I looked it up online. I found a website that led me to the video and I knew I had to write about it. I agree, it was so inspiring and I immediately saw the metaphors for so much of the rest of life.
I absolutely love this, Joy: “I wouldn’t wish to experience it again, but I also don’t wish it away because the depth of presence I am able to vest is a direct result of all that I had experienced.”
What a beautiful sentiment and an inspiring attitude! This is exactly the message of the video to me. You’ve done in your life what untold numbers of people so desperately need to do to move beyond the trash heap into something wonderful. You’re an inspiration!
I also appreciate your closing comments: “I am reminded how significant each individual piece is for the beautiful harmony within the entire symphony. May each person recognize just how essential their presence is.”
Perfectly and beautifully said, Joy. Thank you so much.
What a beautiful post, Ken! That video – I see things like that happening where I live. People go find stuff in the garbage abundantly lying by the roadside, pick up what they want and make a living out of it.
When Vidur was in elementary school, I used to teach the kids to make “wealth out of waste”. I grew up in an ultra-thrifty family that did not believe in wasting anything. There used to be a joke that a “dhoti”, the lower garment worn by men in South India would not be discarded until it served its use as a loin cloth, when there was no choice but to discard it. An old dhoti has many uses. Our trash can is not a big one, as you can guess. Plus, the prevailing slogan is waste not, want not. It was a good thing we didn’t have enough money to indulge in wants. Simple living. I only remember the happy times.
Yet, as you rightly pointed out, what about the trash we put up with? That takes longer to deal with. Some deeply-seated beliefs and habits take time to be released. All I know, today, is that the trash can be swept out. We can keep our “houses” (self) clean. We have a choice. We can love ourselves. We can be happy. And there is pure joy in service to others.
Hugs and love.
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Thank you, Vidya! Wow. It’s so interesting how much of what one person throws out as trash can be used by someone else to make something beautiful.
You’re right, simplicity is much more likely to add happiness of an enduring quality than the next new expensive gadget with all its all-too-often attendant debt. I think my Mom would say something similar ab out my shoes as you did about a dhoti. I wore mine until they fell off my feet. I can’t say I still do that, but boy, in my youth, let’s just say my parents likely saved quite a bit of money on the shoes they didn’t have to buy. 🙂
It’s a shame we don’t sweep the junk in our own lives out the door as easily and quickly as it is to sweep the patio clean of debris. I think some of the problem is that a significant amount of the junk in our lives (attitudes, insecurities, mental habits, undermining beliefs) are products of such a long time ago. They’ve embedded themselves so deeply into the fabric of our lives that we sometimes don’t even recognize they are even there.
If we do, because of the length of time they’ve been with us, we think they are an integral part of us, part of our DNA. But that very belief keeps the junk close by, in the pockets of who we believe we are. But like you say, we can change. We do indeed have a choice. We can be happy.
Thanks so much for the beautiful comment, Vidya!
Hugs and love back your way!
This blog post is truly manna for me today. I have to get creative here, but it’s a worthwhile effort. Even if all I create is a new perception, I will have accomplished something, made lemonaid from lemons.
Thanks, Ken. 🙂
Hi Crystol,
I’m so happy you found your manna here.
New perceptions are the most creative and life-changing acts of the human potential there are. Nothing is more beautiful or more creative. Everything new in our lives has to be born out of new perspectives and perceptions. That is everyone’s greatest accomplishment. When we change our behavior or our circumstances without a corresponding change to our perspective, we are largely doomed to return to the previous behavior and set of circumstances. We see that in bankrupt lottery winners and failed New Year’s Resolutions all the time. So celebrate any truly changed perception as the greatest victory and accomplishment you can experience. If NOTHING else changes in your life, that new perception itself will be a huge blessing for you, worthy of the celebration I’m encouraging you to have.
And the amazing thing about perception changes is that you don’t even have to settle for lemonaid. You can change your lemons into a 4-course steak and lobster dinner! 🙂
Love your attitude, Crystol. Thanks so much for sharing it here.
What a beautiful way of putting things, Ken. I’m saving your words… 🙂
🙂
Food for thought Ken. I really respect people who are able to turn personal tragedies into triumphs. Joyce Meyer is another person who was sexually abused by her father for years and she managed to turn her garbage into music. I really do have tons of respect for people like her and the ones that you mention here.
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Ah. Beautiful compliment, Wade. If I do nothing else but provide food for thought, I’ve done something worthy of my time here.
I once listened to a Joyce Meyers CD before knowing anything about her, who she was or what she did. I picked it up at the local library and thoroughly enjoyed it. Very inspiring. Even more so knowing her past. Thank you for sharing that.
I’m with you with the respect you have for people like that. And what inspires me even more is the sheer numbers of people who have taken tragedy and heartache, abuse and horror and made something amazing out of their lives, touching countless others. To think that perhaps millions, perhaps more, have turned such garbage into music gives me hope that should something someday in my own life require me to dig deeper than I have had to so far to find the music, I can do it too.
Powerful post Ken. I am always and in awe of people who are able to turn such tragedies into triumph. This post will help to motivate many people to turn their lives around and live life to their fullest potential.
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Thanks Neil. I like that phrase: turning tragedies int triumph. I know how inspiring it was to me to watch the video and think about its implications, so I do hope you’re right that others find the motivation to turn some of the collecting piles of trash in their lives into something beautiful. Thanks so much for your thoughts and encouragement, Neil. Very appreciated.
Its a pleasure and meant Ken. I believe and feel that you have the passion to stir up souls. I have every reason to believe that you will accomplish your goal of making the world a better place for people to live in. I hope that we can all follow your example and do our little bit to share hope for others. You stay blessed 🙂
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Thank you, Wade. That means a lot to me. We’re all in the same boat paddling in the same direction, moving the message forward, bumping into one person at a time, right? Thanks for all you do, Wade. I am blessed and wish you the same.
I’ve had to choose music over darkness a lot of times in my life. If you know my story (Sunday’s Child), you’ll know that this is true. These stories are all moving renditions of what our lives could be like if we turn negative situations into positives. God is waiting to fight on our side!
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I do know your story, Anne. I bought your eBook quite some time ago and was moved by the degree to which you have indeed turned the trash of the past into a beautiful song.
Wonderful sentiments, Anne. I agree totally. Thank you for sharing them.
This was a wonderful article. It only takes you to look at your “garbage” in a different light to turn it into something beautiful. Thank you for the inspirational article, Ken.
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Good to see you again, Jorge!
Thanks for the kind words. I was definitely inspired by the group turning literal trash into musical instruments.
But we all have issues from the past, some combination of self-defeating attitudes, habits of thought and belief and behavior that clutter our lives as well.
So the example of the group turning garbage into music inspires us to turn emotional and spiritual and other sources of garbage into the music of personal growth, character development, emotional maturity, courage, faith, patience and happiness.
Thanks for the comment, Jorge. I appreciate it!
Thank you, Ken. The video is so uplifting and your use of metaphor so on target.
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Thanks so much, Sandra. I was moved by the video too. We all have issues, don’t we! But to be able to transform the baggage of yesteryear into music that lifts our lives is a beautifully inspiring thing as well.
Have a wonderful day, Sandra.
Thanks Ken for sharing this post and the video. I remember when i was a kid and how my mother could take anything and make a new use for it. Whether it was food for a meal or clothes, etc. We didn’t have much and she never throw anything away. It taught me a lot.
Thank you again, it gives life a whole new look.
Debbie
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Debbie, it truly amazes me what some people can do with what other people throw away. And yet so many people look in the mirror through the lens of their pasts or other distorting lenses and throw away their joy or potential or self-respect. Those are the things people throw away I hope will be remade into something beautiful.
Thanks for your thoughts, Debbie!
That seems to be really cool! And I recognize it, everything can function as a musical instrument it only depends on the user. I couldn’t make any music with a Stradivari but an artist can make real MUSIC with any kind of things which can give a sound. That’s what I’d call experimental music!
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Hi Regina, thanks for the comment!
Musicians can make music of anything that makes sound. And we can learn to make music of our lives out of anything in our pasts. I think that’s the main point I wanted to make from the video clip.
Hi Ken,
Every experience has a silver lining. We just need to find some positive twist so that we can make sense of our pain. We grow and learn from those tragic experiences and although we don’t wish them on anyone, it can be amazing to watch what people will do after tragedy strikes.
I have come across a number of families who have lost their children to drug overdoses and have gone on to educate others about the dangers, so that their child’s life has meaning and purpose for others. It is all in how we handle life’s challenges that make the difference. Great reminder – thank you!
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Hi Cathy!
It’s as inspiring when people transform the tragedy of their lives into something meaningful and life-changing for others as it is painful when the tragedy strikes. We are kindred spirits, here, Cathy. It is truly amazing what people can do with such challenges.
I would be curious to know how many people take their heartache and turn the cause of the pain into a cause they work to improve (mothers joining MADD after losing a child to drunk driving, for instance). Most do so without fanfare, so I bet the numbers would surprise us. Like you, I’ve known a number, and likely know others without knowing they volunteer their time to the cause that adds meaning to the loss. It’s just such a powerful way to go on, to reassemble a life that has been shattered, make sense and find purpose and move on.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, Cathy. Like you say, how we handle the challenges life throws our way makes all the difference.
One of my favorite songs is called Three Wooden Crosses. Some of the most beautiful and thought-provoking music really does come from sad events!