“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” ~James Allen
We are what we think about over time. We are the accumulation of all our attitudes, beliefs, fears, hopes and dreams, all the thoughts that fill our minds on a regular basis. (Tweet)
We are our own self-fulfilling prophesy. (Tweet)
We are the products of our attitudes and mental states of mind. We are the external manifestation of the internal environment we create. (Tweet)
Those who live in the poverty of the mind eventually find their lives steeped in environmental poverty as well. Those who live in the poverty of the soul find their emotional and spiritual lives impoverished too. Those whose minds play in the gutter can’t help but pick up the mind diseases that lurk there.
On the other hand, when we elevate our thinking—in time—we also elevate our circumstances. All creation begins as thought. Every invention was first born as an idea. Every discovery and development passed through the birthing canal of imagination and contemplation. Every breakthrough was initiated by the thought that formed it.
Want to Change your Life? Change your Thoughts
“The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ~ Albert Einstein
Our thoughts are the prisons we condemn ourselves to or they are the keys we use to unlock possibility and potential. (Tweet) What role thought plays in your life is determined by the nature of what you choose to consistently think about and how you choose to think it.
Just as your health is not the result of any particular meal you eat, but the kinds of meals you tend to eat generally, so happiness is not the result of any particular thought, but of the kinds of thoughts that regularly inhabit your mind.
If I think life is ugly, I will see the ugliness in life. But not because the world is predominately ugly. Ugliness is simply what will register in my mind as proof of what I already believe or strongly suspect is true about it. If I believe something is one way, I will seek evidence for that interpretation. It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy.
The Thought You Feed is the One that Grows
“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” ~ Gandhi (Tweet)
Thought has a way of expanding into reality. It takes shape and form as the thing you invented, the condition you imagined and the circumstances you gave birth to as you thought them into existence.
What you think becomes true by the force of the power you give it, by the food of thought you nurse it with, the physical dimensions you create for it, the home you house it in, the canvas you paint it on.
And just to be clear, I’m not talking about supernatural powers of vibrational attraction. It’s really much simpler than all that. It boils down to some combination of these 3 self-fulfilling conditions:
1. If I think negatively, I will more likely act negatively. Action is the outgrowth of thought. So negative thinking will repel positive people and the influence, friendship and opportunities they would have brought with them.
2. How I think influences what I focus my attention on. By focusing on the negative, the positive is more likely disregarded, overlooked or downplayed, thereby amplifying and magnifying the unfortunate and ugly by comparison.
3. Thinking negativity ignores opportunity. The more my attention is trained on the negative, the less of the positive I see or even believe is accessible to me, further “proving” I just don’t get any breaks in life. And so our thoughts dim the lights on the reality we experience, not fully realizing it was never the reality but our thoughts about it that dimmed.
We See What We Seek
If I’m looking down at the dirt all the time, I’ll less likely see the flowers on the bush growing out of it, the butterfly lighted on the flower on it, the hummingbird flitting above it or the sunshine washing over it. My world, then, is what I choose to look at, the way I choose to interpret what I see, the mental state I pass the input through, the interpretive framework of thought and belief and attitude by which I process it.
Proof in a Deck of Cards
Imagine a deck of cards fanned out in front of you. If I asked you to quickly find the Queen of Spades, the King of Hearts and the Ace of Clubs, you would train your mind on the immediate task at hand and likely spot them in short order.
But after palming the deck, if I asked you to tell me what card was on either side of the three cards you found, chances are you wouldn’t know. But why? Your eyes would have actually seen them. So why wouldn’t you remember? Are you blind to the other cards? Well, no, not if you were looking for them.
But you were, in fact, effectively blind to them by virtue of what you were looking for. Your brain blocks everything that’s not the cards you were searching the deck for to more efficiently locate the cards you instructed your brain to find. In other words, to streamline the search, your brain blocks information overload.
Unless, of course, the neighboring cards you were looking for were very similar to those you were asked to find. If, for example, you were looking for the Queen of Spades and the one right next to it was the Queen of Clubs, you would likely have remembered that card.
This process is immediate and automatic and lasts about as long as you are looking for those specific cards. Change the cards you’re looking for (say, a 10 of Hearts or 5 of Diamonds) and your “blindness” adapts to the changed set of cards you were asked to locate.
The Great Conspiracy
“If you think you can do a thing, or think you can’t do a thing, you are right.” ~ Henry Ford (Tweet)
If you are convinced it will rain today, your mind will notice the clouds in the sky more than the sky around the clouds. If you think people don’t like you, your brain will focus its energy on that thought and will pick up the frowns and notice the people not talking to you even while others smile and try to get your attention.
If you think negative, you will look for the negative and your brain will more likely and more often negate the positive as an inefficient use of attention.
You have, after all, sent your brain the order: “Only find the negative because that’s all I’m looking for.” Your brain will conspire with you against evidence of the positive just to prove you right and identify what you are already looking for. Brains are quite efficient that way.
They also pick up other negative cues because they are the “cards” similar to the ones you were already programmed to find. This way, negativity reinforces negativity and the wheels of the self-fulfilling prophesy are set in motion as our brains look for evidence to back up the beliefs we already harbor.
A Simple Solution
“If you correct the mind, everything else will fall into place.” ~Lao Tzu (Tweet)
Now that you know why you feel life is conspiring against you (that you and your brain are the dominant conspirators), you’re armed with the knowledge needed to begin breaking the self-destructive, self-perpetuating habit of thought.
Here’s the simple answer: Change the cards you’re looking for by conscientiously looking for proof that life is beautiful, challenges are opportunities and the world keeps spinning in the right direction, at the right speed, following it’s correct orbit.
Then, as you replace old habitual ways of thinking with new positive ones, thereby reprogramming your brain to find better cards, you will begin to see life as something profoundly more beautiful and happy.
Life’s Buffet
This is not, by the way, an exercise in self-delusion. Just like being at a buffet and choosing some foods over others, you can choose among competing thoughts and interpretations as well. If it’s not delusional to choose pizza over oysters, it’s not delusional to choose happy over sad, noble over ignoble and positive over negative ways of thinking.
You are the master craftsman of your thoughts. What you think will eventually, and to one degree or another, become the fluid that lubricates the gears of your life. (Tweet)
So choose your thoughts wisely and change your life profoundly. (Tweet)
Your Turn …
- What habits of thoughts have held (or are holding) you back?
- Do you agree that our thoughts create our realities?
- How has your thinking transformed your life?
- Please share your thoughts below.
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I agree 100%. As cliche’ it might sound, all you have to do is THINK HAPPY THOUGHTS!!! I see too many people who have the eeyore effect. “nobody likes me, nobody wants to be my friend” and they continue to live a life full of sadness because thats all they think about. You attract what you feel/think. I try to appreciate the smallest things so then I am extremely grateful for even better things!!! Thank you for this wonderful insight on a Marvelous Monday!!!
Well said, Tiffany! The Eeyore effect! What an imagery-packed term. As I read your woe-is-me example of those who walk around complaining nobody likes them, I could hear it said in Eeyore’s tired, melancholy voice. But isn’t that how so many people think! They walk around with their thoughts in that Eeyore tone, wondering why they were so cursed and the world is so unfair and waiting to finally be served their break in life.
Appreciating the small things is key, Tiffany. Some people dismiss it as so much simplicity, but they’re wrong. Most of life’s huge things are made up of lots of smaller ones. So keep appreciating and enjoying life, Tiffany! Loved your comment! Thank you for sharing it.
A Terrific Tuesday to you too! 🙂
very good ..BUT .how do you change your thought??
As Gandhi’s favourite toy Monkey said “See no Evil, Hear no Evil, Speak no Evil”
the only way it works ..to change a thought .. is to look/read and listen to the things simillar to which way you want to change your thoght and so does the outcome…….
two only ways to….inputs for our mind….
Great question, Jayant!
The process is really not too complicated, like you suggest. We change our thoughts by reprogramming our minds as we interrupt old patterns of thinking and replace them with new ones. Then we practice the new patterns.
Just like we would practice the piano or practice giving a public speech over and over again, we can do the same with our thinking. If we currently habitually see the ugly in life, we can start looking for the beautiful. Simply seek it out. Then argue with the mind by telling it, perhaps out loud, “Look!
There is so much beauty here too!” Then start naming the beautiful things. There is never a loss of the good and positive. For some, it just seems like life is filled with so much ugliness because they focus so much of their attention of the negative.
We can even make a game of it: Every time we catch ourselves thinking negatively or pessimistically, challenge yourself to find 5 or 10 or even 30 things (for the adventurous amongst us!) to be positive and optimistic about. That way, one thought at a time, one day at a time, step by step, we start to reprogram how our minds automatically “see” the world.
Thanks for adding the “how-to” to the discussion, Jayant. It was an omission that needed filling!
Love your take on this Ken and your quotes tell it all.
Our thoughts set up the way we feel about life, the way we perceive it and we can’t tune in to a station on the radio and spend all our time complaining about it. Well, we can, but it’s a bit blooming useless. And we can’t tune our mind into giving attention to everything that’s wrong and expect to see all the great and joyful things in our world.
Love Elle
xoxo
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Thanks so much, Elle.
“We can’t tune our mind into giving attention to everything that’s wrong and expect to see all the great and joyful things in our world.” I like the way you put that, Elle. So true. When we let our thoughts live in life’s sewers, we can’t be too surprised when our lives turn out smelling a bit like sewage. (Was that too graphically expressed? 😉 )
Right up my alley Ken. I won’t waffle on because you’ve covered every base here. Many discount the power of our Thoughts but you and I know better. Thanks for this.
Be good to yourself
David
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Yep! Thought is precursor to experience; change our thoughts and change our experiences. Not more needs be said for the converted, eh?
Thanks David. Keep the thoughts elevated, my friend!
Brain scans have also shown the area of the brain that controls fear, and another region involved in negative emotions, close down, explaining why people feel so happy with the world – and unafraid of what might go wrong – when they fall head over heels.
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Hi Pearlie! Nueroscience is such a fascinating field. We’re learning so much about how much the brain is related to so much of what we do and think and even how we interpret life. The happy news is that brain chemistry is something like what one author called as permanent as butter at room temperature. In other words, we can actually change our brain chemistry and how it’s wired to produce better results and higher levels of happiness with more predictable frequency.
Brain chemistry is just much more malleable than we once thought. And that’s some really good news for those who have relied on DNA as an excuse to remain stuck in self-defeating thinking patterns.
Yup, I absolutely agree. Our thougths are our inner voice and most assuredly become our reality. More frightening, perhaps, is that our words can become another’s thoughts – and subsequently, their inner voice. That’s a huge one to keep in mind as a teacher, a parent, a spouse.
Re-reading my Transcendental friends Emerson and Thoreau right now…great evidence for the power of the human mind and imagination driving one’s spiritual and emotional development.
The human mind is a powerful thing – more powerful than I think we can ever truly understand. It is our greatest gift, our most capable tool…but it can also be a swift and powerful weapon if not used responsibly.
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I like the other side of the coin you presented here, Lisa. The mind can conceive of both great good and great evil. It can lift and inspire or it can hurt and maim. So all those who have an audience have a responsibility to use the mind as a tool to build and improve and motivate. That was an important reminder, Lisa.
I haven’t read Emerson or Thoreau in a while. You’ve inspired me to dust them off and give them another read!
I love your post. I really think that positive thinking is a powerful tool to get what we want in life. I always believed that we have to follow are dreams and do what we have to do to achieve them.
You wrote a really inspiring message.
Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks so much, Steve. The current literature on the power of the mind is pretty awe-inspiring stuff. By focusing that power on creating the life we most want to live, we can do magic.
I’m not personally one who subscribes to the idea that anyone can do anything, but that we can use our minds to create a life that is truly meaningful and rewarding. The specifics depend on ability, experience, creativity and, among other characteristics, risk tolerance. But while I may never be an Einstein or Picasso, I can be happy and fulfilled. And that’s what matters most anyway, right?
Thank you Ken for the eye-opening post on thoughts. I agree 100%. Your thoughts are very powerful. There is a lot written about the power of thought in quantum physics. Thanks again.
Thank you so much, Eva. Quantum physics is a fascinating subject, for sure. I read a few books on it back some time ago (and have done some serious forgetting about it ever since 😉 ) and get glimpses here and there as other authors incorporate it into their writing. I bet it has evolved a bit since I payed much attention to it though. I should update.
Thanks for the comment, Eva. Much appreciated!
Hi Ken,
I like your reference to the buffet! “choosing some foods over others,” years ago I heard a quote that stuck in my mind, “What you focus on expands” – so simple and yet so true!
This is a strong and powerful post. I love all the quotes in it. I agree that our thoughts create our realities. I think sometimes we aren’t well enough aware of the underlying beliefs that are running our lives. Life does show us but we make them fit with what we already are used to dealing with.
I believe, too, we’re lazy. We need to think more about what we see and acknowledge that we have created all of it.
🙂
Lori
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That buffet reference almost didn’t make it in the post. I came up with it last minute on my last read-through. 🙂
I agree with you, Lori. I suppose it’s a relatively few who explore and examine their beliefs, follow those beliefs into the mental stew they create
and recognize the emotional steam wafting off that mental concoction. Even fewer then do something about changing the beliefs that create the context for what we think and then feel.
But laziness? Us human folk? Naw! 😉
Great points, Lori. Was it Henry Ford who said that thinking is the hardest kind of work—and that’s why so few engage in it? (left out the quotation marks because I’m pretty sure this is only a rough paraphrase—and I’m too lazy to look it up! 😉 )
What an encouraging thought! I totally agree that thoughts influence our lives. I try to look for the positive in life and even when my brain insists on thinking about negatives, I actively stop it and work on good, worthwhile thoughts. I don’t want to go through life miserable because of the negative things I think about.
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That’s right, Anne. It’s all about retraining the brain to see life differently than it would if left to it’s own devices. We likely have some natural predilection (heavily influenced by childhood patterns and conditions) toward positive or negative thinking, but we can also change the tendency by reprogramming the mind to interpret our experiences more positively. And that makes all the difference. We all have negative thoughts, of course, so it’s about offsetting the ration of positive to negative one thought at a time.
It always amazes me how much our society is focused on physical health and well being but we let our mental fitness and focus take a back seat. Perspective truly is reality, yet we spend so little time training our brains to use this tool. I like your example about the deck of cards, it really gets the point across. Very good article, I write about questioning thought patterns and mental self discipline in my blog a lot, it is the foundation of change in our lives, thanks for the insight!
Dave (personal growth project)
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I agree, Dave. What do we look like, how much body fat, what do we drive and where do we live. But all the internal qualities of character and mental fitness, as you say, those are so often neglected.
Questioning thought patterns is such a powerful tool to get us to challenge our presuppositions, often picked up at an age before we knew any better. We habitually think in self-defeating patterns that have little basis in reality. Under such circumstances, directly challenging those thoughts, forcing our minds to, in effect, “prove it” helps us settle into more accurate and healthier and happier ways of thinking, for sure.
Bless you in your work, Dave. We need more people spreading the news that we don’t have to remain stuck in old attitudes and mindsets, that we can change ourselves at the most fundamental level, at the level of the mind.
I enjoyed the article very much. But every time I hear, read, or think about “me and my brain”, “you and your brain”, it starts to bother me a little. Me, myself, and I, are all wrapped up in the same package. To me, the brain is always talking to its self. Is there a way to get around the dilemma I have with this? 🙂
Hi John,
So glad you enjoyed the article. I know what you mean about the brain/self separation. I’m reading a book right now that talks about the ego as though it has nothing to do with who we are, like an alien has taken over part of the brain that is totally foreign to the “real” us.
Still, understanding how the brain works helps us identify ways of dealing with life’s challenges and ways our thoughts can be used to enhance happiness instead of working against us.
I suppose the best way to get around the dilemma is to see the discussion of the brain talking to itself as a metaphor rather than an actual conversation between different parts of the same thing.
(PS: I’ve assumed the dilemma was the way people talk about the brain rather than that your brain is constantly talking to itself. Did I understand your question correctly? Just making sure! ;))
Thanks Ken,
Yes, you understood my question, but I do talk to myself quite often also :). It’s just that when I am alone, and have a thought about “my brain”, it almost seems like a dual awareness. It’s not troublesome, and I suppose it is more a problem of language rather than a dilemma. I like your “metaphor” analogy, thanks!
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This is a great post!!! I would like to use it on our church site if I could.
If you don’t let anything positive in, nothing positive will come out….
Thankyou John
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Thanks John! I would be honored to be featured on your church site. Just provide a link back here and all’s good.
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