It’s popular to use the quotes of famous people to introduce topics in a post.
And there is certainly justification for it. I’ve done it here and will do the same in the future. But reading over my comments, I see the same pithy wisdom and quotable insight in the words of my readers as from the more famous quips typically used.
This, then, is the second in an ongoing series where insightful comments by wise readers introduce each segment of the article.
Note: I have edited some of the comments for grammar, spelling, punctuation, brevity and, in some instances, clarity. I believe, however, the meaning has been left unaltered. Still, in no way should the reader suppose the commenter necessarily endorses what follows their words.
Ayo at Discovering Purpose commenting on 10 Practical Ways to Develop Self-mastery
“Being our own masters leads us to a true form of authenticity and causes us to build confidence in who we are. It also creates an avenue to discover our talents as we engage in self-discipline and live by principles.”
Principles are unyielding things. They are the True North of character. Compassion, love, humility, gratitude, kindness, perseverance, forgiveness, generosity, courage – these are a sample of those True North principles of human relations and personal morality that are life-governing.
The happiest people are those who have such principles at the core of their beings. As principles, they are changeless and constant. As we build such character traits in us, we will increasingly stand true and tall with a confidence and self-assuredness that can withstand frontal assaults from external conditions that otherwise compromise who we truly are and long to be.
We will have come closer to tapping our true inner potential. We will then experience a more profound form of authenticity than a mere showing of our unguarded lives, more than the confession of surrender to our baser instincts or spontaneous expressions of raw emotion. It will be the authenticity of the higher you, the natural expression of the better you, the realness of the real you.
Steven at The Emotion Machine commenting on There is Change in all Things
“We are in a constant state of flux … evolving, growing, and decaying in new ways. Everything is changing from moment-to-moment … who you are today is much different than who you were 10 years ago, or will be 10 years from now. Embrace this change”
Change is, in fact, the great constant. There are life cycles, business cycles, lunar cycles, historical cycles, tidal cycles, weather cycles, and unicycles (sorry, couldn’t resist!)
And that’s just the fact of it. Our resistance to the changes inherent in the cycles of life creates unnecessary stress in life, compromising happiness.
And yet there’s an inner core that, once found, doesn’t change. It is the constant in the storm of life’s ups and downs. It is the steadiness of True North in the swirl that is the flurry of life rushing by.
In the midst of such pulse-throbbing changes that unpredictably shoot up around us day after constantly evolving day, there’s a sense of deep peace associated with being able to hold on to changeless principles, a timeless standard, a faith that is constant. Such can be a beacon in a storm, a candle in the dark, a rail to hold to in the difficulty and turmoil life can sometimes become.
Peter at Motivational Memo commenting on 10 Ways to Think Yourself Happy
“As I think so I am. So think happy – be happy. I choose my thoughts – my thoughts don’t choose me. And at times I need to lasso them – for they are an unruly beast at times needing absolute control by the master of my thoughts – me!”
We are the product of our thoughts. We rise to the level we think we can achieve and shrink to the level we think we can’t escape.
Our thoughts shape the world around us as well. If we focus on the negative we will see mostly negative. Why? Because that’s what we’re looking for, of course.
Both good and bad, uplifting and degrading, the beautiful and blemished exist in life simultaneously. What we focus our attention on gets amplified. What we don’t focus on fades to the background, sometimes disappearing altogether with neglect.
Have you ever learned a new word you’ve never heard before? You imagine yourself smart for now knowing a word no one else knows. And then once you’ve learned it, you start hearing it everywhere you quickly realize it wasn’t a new word after all.
Why did this happen? The answer is that your brain filtered out the word as so much unnecessary noise and gibberish until the moment you memorized its definition. Then, suddenly, the noise made sense, ceasing to be noise, bringing the hidden word into the open.
Our minds also often miss the very things we are so convinced are not there because we think they are not there. Change your beliefs and you can change the very nature of what you see and experience in life.
Our thoughts are extensions of our beliefs. If I believe I’m ugly, for example, I’ll look for the evidence to support that belief. I’ll focus on the crooked nose, the thinning hair, the narrow shoulders, the freckles or acne or gap in my teeth or any number of physical characteristics that complete the image of what I already believe to be true. There will always be evidence for just about anything you believe … even if it’s patently inaccurate.
So how do you change your limiting thoughts? Change what you believe about life and you will unlock the door to a new way of thinking that will utterly change the way you live and experience life.
Lisa at Getting to Zen commented on 22 Lessons Learned “When Sorrow Walked with Me”
“Procrastination doesn’t work. Life rewards action. We can either sit around dreaming about the things we want to do or we can do them.”
A simple philosophy of life. But one shared by people who do great things and accomplish worthwhile goals and take steps into opportunities that take advantage of the bounty life provides. The opposite of taking action is delay and hibernation, stagnation and plateauing. None of these suggest doing much with the potential at our disposal.
Life is active. It is dynamic. It is, to borrow Steven’s words, in a constant state of flux. Life evolves and remakes itself in millions and millions of large and small ways every moment, expanding one moment, contracting the next.
If we sink our feet into the known, planting ourselves deep in the soil of what’s always been, we will also bury possibility and growth and discovery and joy there with it. Not a wise use of discretion.
John at The 100% You commented on Live Instead of Die
“Superb clarion call – to live at its fullest, highest, strongest, and best. To love not fear, grow not shrink, share not keep, give not take, and step up not step back.”
Life is all about options, about choices that confront us every moment of every day. We have the agency to decide on the course of our lives.
Will we spend it in front of the TV or building relationships? Will we sleep and nap our way through life or get up and create something new and exciting? Will we whine and complain or get off our butts and make something of ourselves?
Every action and reaction, every thought that we persist in, every act of forgiveness or spite, every judgment and act of kindness are the result of definite choices we make to live a particular way, to allow habits to continue to plague our lives or to inspire us to live with integrity to a higher set of values centered on universal principles of decency.
These are the choices before us. How we choose and the consistency of those choices makes all the difference to what we experience and who we become and the quality of our relationships and the quality of our lives.
Afterthoughts
We drive the ship of our lives, our hands firmly planted on the wheel. We ground it on the barrier reefs or sail it into open waters of opportunity. We take it into troubled seas or navigate to peaceful harbors.
But make no mistake about it: We are at the helm. Where we steer our lives, or to where we allow them to drift, depends on the choices we make, the thoughts we habitually think, the beliefs we accept against the backdrop of the principles we navigate our lives by.
Choose well and live well … potentially extremely well.
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Great wisdom here. When you group sources like this, what strikes me is how many facets there are to wisdom. When I was part of a group of bloggers from all over the world who contributed to an ebook about life lessons, what I learned from reading all the lessons is that no matter what our background is, or our culture, or faith, or age, or race, or anything else, we all learn basically the same things. All the variations of the same basic principles enrich our understanding and experience.
By the way, your last analogy to driving our own ship reminds me of what my two month old grandson’s other grandmother says about him. “He is captain of his ship.” He is indeed.
Galen Pearl recently posted … The Good Old Days
Hi Galen!
Sounds like a great collaborative work you were a part of. I think there is much more emphasis placed on intelligence and on acquiring knowledge than wisdom in most cultures — at least the ones I’m familiar with. But wisdom is so much more important. Knowledge tells us how to make weapons of mass destruction, for example. But wisdom tells us whether they should ever be used. We need much more wisdom in the world today. Thanks for all the wisdom you put out into the world, Galen!
PS: I have a little boy that sounds a lot like your grandson — the captain of his ship. And sometimes he tries to extend that authority as admiral of the open seas! 🙂
Thanks Ken,
I appreciate how you weave your perspective with your readers. Your openness is refreshing and it’s great to be reminded of the wisdom and beauty in all if we would but look for it!
Wonderful perspective about principals as True North to build a life. Might be something for me to practice more. Thanks.
Blessings, Brad
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Thanks, Brad. I have a lot of fun writing these kinds of posts. And with the quality of people who leave comments (yourself included, by the way!), I get a kick starting with their words and elaborating from there.
As for living our lives according to true north principles, we can all practice that art!
Thanks for commenting, Brad. Always great to see you!
Thank you so much for being chosen Ken considering how many fantastic comments and insights you get from your readers. This just shows that everyone has wisdom inside them, everyone a sum of their experiences, a sage who has learnt, a soul with inbuilt universal truth, and an ordinary person with extraordinary messages to share with the world. EVERYONE has something we all need! Keep up the stellar work Ken, you are a true contributor of the best for everyone’s best.
John Sherry recently posted … Sports Professionals Wanted
My pleasure, John! You speak eloquently, profoundly and passionately about critical issues to living life well.
I like the way you said this: “EVERYONE has something we all need.” Life is truly interdependent. And we all have something to offer. Some, however, have either been convinced or convinced themselves that they don’t. And so they live life feeling they have nothing to contribute, that they are without wisdom or ability or worth. We are all thankful for people like you who work so passionately to convince them otherwise.
Thanks for commenting, John!
Hi Ken,
It’s been a while since I’ve been around, so I must apologise for that. It took me a while to adjust my days to fit the rest of my life around full-time work, but I’m getting there 😉
About this post, I’m thoroughly impressed and inspired with the pearls of wisdom available here. I know all but one of these people, and it doesn’t surprise me at all that their words ring true and loud. Guys like John, Ayo, and Lisa are stalwarts of the personal development genre, and although their blogs may not be as big as some others in the field, their voices are no quieter.
Thanks for sharing Ken 🙂
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Hey Stu! Awesome to see you up and running again! I’ve missed you, my friend! Hope the new job is treating you well.
I totally agree with you. Lots of wisdom here. One of my most cherished blessing associated with blogging has been what I’ve learned from the comments left by such thoughtful people. There is a world of ideas out there and the more I rub shoulders with those who have bumped up against ideas I haven’t been as exposed to here, the deeper my thinking becomes.
Thanks for stopping by, Stu. You are one of those wise ones I learn so much from! 🙂
Hi Ken,
What a great list of quotes and responses here by your wise readers. Thoughts and beliefs are everything when it comes to our experience of the World that we live in.
And Change, well that is constant and I found it best to just go with it.
take care…
Justin Mazza recently posted … Don’t Dig into your Emotions
Hi Justin!
The most difficult part of writing a post like this is having to pick just a few comments to use as the quotes. There are so many to choose from that are just so ripe with wisdom. What helps me is the knowledge that this will be an ongoing feature here, so I will eventually get to all of those juicy tidbits of eloquent insight! 🙂
As for change, I like your attitude! It’s going to happen. We can fight it and fall under the wheels of its perpetual push, or learn from it and adapt to it and grow into it.
Thanks for your thoughts, Justin.
Hi Ken,
this is wonderful and very true, “we navigate our lives”. This post does show how we learn from each other from all corners of the earth. What is important is how we use the information we learn and read.
We are the captain of our ship and it is up to each individual to decide what water we wish to travel. By learning from others we can sail much smoother.
thank you again and my you always be blessed.
Debbie
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Hi Debbie!
I was just listening to a program today where the speaker said that same thing. Learning has little value, she said, without application. It’s not WHAT we know, it’s what we DO with what we know. Great point, Debbie!
I love being exposed to so many points of view from so many different people with so many unique backgrounds.
Thanks for sharing you wisdom here too!
And have a wonderful day!
Hello Ken,
I love so much what you say about the true North and how you relate this to the essences of true character. It’s a funny thing, you can’t see these life-giving impulses that are present in every one of. And I suppose if you try hard enough you can drown out their sweet influence in our lives.
But better, oh so much better isn’t it Ken to relish this great gift we are given and let it is given increasing expression in our life. Thank you for your stalwart advocacy for these principles. I believe the whole world is blessed.
Christopher Foster recently posted … Joy’s journey home
Thank you Christopher!
It just seems to me that there are so many people trying to fight against some pretty basic governing principles of life. They try to reinvent themselves somewhere outside those True North principles and then wonder why relationships always fall apart, success is always out of reach, and the inner prick of unease is always there in the quiet moments when they have only themselves for companionship and something inside knows they’re living a lie. I think you are absolutely right that in this way, we can drown out their influence.
But the ability to recognize True North in our lives truly is a gift. I like the way you put that. And the more we apply the gift or align ourselves with those principles, the more liberated we become to pursue who we want to be and what we want out of life within the context of those governing laws and principles of decency and love and compassion and truth.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts here, Christopher. It’s always deeply appreciated.
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Hey Ken,
This was a nice article to read. You put together some really interesting blog comments. It is nice to have comments that are deep and have a powerful meaning. It really leaves a nice warm spot on your heart because you know someone else enjoys what your doing.
A person without principles is probably headed in the wrong direction. Many principles are supposed to be instilled into us at a young age because those are the ones that follow us all the way throughout life.
Many of my peers have not been taught important principles when they were growing up. It is apparent to me when I look around and see kids with no respect.
Trends take over and everyone wants to be that certain someone, but never themselves. Principles they once knew start to fade away and corrupt ones take over like loss of respect, laziness, and hate.
I am not perfect, but I try to live my life with the principles my father gave me. It is hard with all the teens around me with corrupted minds, but I fight evil. My vaules are strong enough to keep me focused on building positive relationships, and splitting the real from the fake.
My principles might make me different, stand out, or not look cool, but I am going to do right and live my life on the “right foot.”
Thanks for the wisdom!
God bless,
WIlliam Veasley
This is an awesome comment, William!
Thank you for taking the time to put so much thought into it. I’ve noticed that change in respect in much of the current generation from previous ones too. And I agree that this change is telling.
Hi Ken,
I am so pleased I found your blogsite. There is so much here for me and I really am so thankful.
I have a kind of depression that whenever I find something that I know will help me my mind looks for ways to invalidate the information. And so, I am in constant turmoil with self defeating thoughts. And I’m fighting.
For instance I started reading this article and there is a disclaimer at the top of the article saying that I should not suppose that the commenter agrees with what follows his words.
My mind trys to tell me that the disclaimer is invalidating the text after the highlighted quotes, which I believe is your text. That’s not true is it? This disclaimer is referring to the comments at the bottom of the article(where I am writing now).. that’s right isn’t it?
I apologise for this. I am seeking help, and I just want to know that the posts I’m reading from you, you indeed validate yourself and that I should have way of being able to invalidate them myself.
Thanks Ken, It’s just reassurance I looking for. And if you have any sites or infomation you think would be helpful for me. I’d love to read it.
Kindness and Peace to all, Hugs* Nigel
Excellent question, Nigel. But you’re first assumption was correct. And while I recognize it may not be a very assuring way to start an article, I’m using someone else’s words to introduce a theme I write about below their quote. I’m simply honoring and respecting the authors of the quotes I use by making it clear that they may or may not agree with me. But since I didn’t ask them, I introduced that caveat.
There are plenty of personal development bloggers I respect but don’t agree with everything they say, for example. So I thought it was right to make that clear. Now of course, it’s possible each author agrees with every single word I wrote beneath their quote. But since I didn’t ask, I made it clear they might not.
Hope that makes sense.
Bottom line, however, is that I will never write a word here I don’t believe. If it’s in a post authored by me, it’s what I believe to be true. I’ll never say what I think someone else wants to hear if it’s not consistent with my beliefs and values.
Thanks for making me clarify, Nigel. That was really helpful to a lot of people, I bet. Hope you come back soon to explore more of the thoughts here at Meant to be Happy.
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Thanks again for the comment and honesty. It’s truly appreciated