“Pessimists have bad days and days that will soon be bad. Optimists have good days and days that are on the verge of good.” ~ me
Did you know there was an organization of and for optimists called Optimist International? And did you know they have a creed? I didn’t until my friend Joe Wilner turned me on to it back some time ago. Well, I decided to make a post of it today.
Each of the 10 provisions below has retained the creed’s original wording (with slight variation so each provision is self-contained) as provided by Optimist International. All the writing between creed provisions is mine.
The Optimist Creed
While I would have worded a few of the creed’s provisions differently had I been its author (go figure – no one came asking me to write it!), it is still a good declaration of basic beliefs and values many optimists share.
And since optimism is so central to happiness, I thought it worthy of some consideration … and a few hours at the keyboard.
So here goes …
Provision #1: Promise to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind
While it may be a little much to ask us to promise that nothing disturb our peace of mind (there are times when our minds should be disturbed if we are caring, compassionate people), still, there is a huge difference between being a thermostat and a thermometer.
A thermometer measures the temperature, indicating what is. A thermostat sets the temperature, creating what it will be. You can set the “temperature” of your own happiness by choosing a better way to respond to life’s trials and challenges. We can choose our emotional responses (and therefore our peace of mind) to life’s difficulties in the long run as we retrain our minds and hearts to automatically react with love and forgiveness and optimism and gratitude even when life sends us heat waves and snowstorms.
We can also retain our peace of mind by living our lives closer to our values, forgiving others their trespasses, overcoming tendencies to judgmentalism, by destressing and simplifying and decluttering our emotional and physical lives.
Provision #2: Promise to talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet
My daughter is particularly good at this. Whenever we would go shopping she would almost invariably notice something about the cashier (a pendant, a necklace, a shirt, hairstyle or ring) and say something complimentary about it. The cashier would inevitably be beaming as we paid and left.
She could have complained about the price or the wait or the temperature of the room. She never did. She saw something she liked and made mention of it and left the people around her feeling good.
We can both profoundly and more subtly influence others for good as well. We can speak of uplifting things and talk about ideas that matter, with the belief that others will come to embrace them simply because they matter.
It’s easy to moan and groan about life and spouse and kids and boss and the current state of political affairs or whatever. The list can go on indefinitely. The cultural atmosphere is already negatively charged with the nails-on-a-chalkboard buzz of whiny complaints, so one more will be but a drop in the already-overflowing bucket.
But optimists choose not to wade in the thick muck of that life-sucking stream. Instead, they choose what my daughter does: To see the good and make mention of it.
Provision #3: Promise to make all your friends feel that there is something in them
We have such power in the words we use, the way we communicate hope and encouragement and trust. We can do so much to make others feel important and valued, to help bandage the wounds of the past.
We can do so much to inspire the belief in others that they have something amazing inside them waiting to spring into the open air, ready to come to life and grow into something truly extraordinary. So look for that potential in others (it’s there even if deeply hidden) and inspire them to take action on those potentialities.
Too many people live so far below their potentials because they believe their potential isn’t much to brag about. Their average lives reflect the opinion they have that their potential isn’t much more than a notch or two above average. But there is something infinitely more than average buried deep in our souls, something profound and powerful and exciting and capable and amazing.
Tap into that inner quality and the world opens onto new vistas of possibility. Help others see that they too have that potential gurgling below the surface of their own self-doubt, and we can unleash a mighty power of creativity, goodness, happiness and love into the world.
Provision #4: Promise to look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true
Optimists are not blind to reality. They are not deaf to the cries of those in need. They do not pretend or ignore or walk around with their heads in clouds and fake-smile their way through life. Optimists see suffering and pain and misfortune like everyone else. But they don’t dwell on such things.
As a matter of fact, since optimists believe there are solutions to seemingly intractable problems, they are more likely to do something about all the suffering and pain in the world than their pessimist counterparts. And that’s the difference. Focusing on the sunny side of day does not require that we deny the existence of the dark side of night.
You can still focus your attention on a problem and keep your optimist credentials so long as your focus is not on the problem itself, but on possible ways of stopping it from remaining one.
The sunny side of a problem is its solution. That’s the sunny thing about it. It’s seeing opportunities in challenge and growth in trials. It’s seeing adversity as life’s gym, there to make you stronger.
Optimists are not unrealistic daydreamers, hoping and wishing their way through life. They go to work to actually turn trials into opportunities. Optimists add the sweat that primes the pump that starts the waters of opportunity flowing. They are the ones squeezing the snot out of life’s lemons to make the lemonade.
Provision #5: Promise to think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best
You won’t see many optimists setting goals for half-way up the mountain. (<– click to Tweet this)
Have you ever had a fish tank? As a kid, I never had much luck keeping fish alive. Too much chlorine, or too little oxygen in the tank. Too much food or too little. I never took the time to create the proper environment to keep the little critters alive for very long.
Our minds are like that too. Our dreams and goals and aspirations die in the liquid of negative thinking, pessimism and self-doubt. But they thrive and grow and multiply when we get the thinking part correct.
So fill your mind with the best thoughts and believe you are capable of reaching what you most hunger for in life. Positive thinking is important because it leads to taking positive action toward your goals. (<– Tweet this!)
Believe you can exercise power over your present set of circumstances. Reject the proposition that you’re stuck in the eternal rut of life. You’re not. So don’t act as though you believed it.
Think big and expect big, then go create big so you can live big. (<– Tweet this)
(P.S.: You choose how to define “big”)
Mediocrity as a creed, as a way of life, is a disease that poisons potential and happiness and possibility and peace of mind and even the common good. It’s perfectly okay to be okay at many things in our lives. Perhaps most. We simply don’t have time to excel at everything we do. But to have mediocrity as the underlying principle of your life is to sell yourself short and confine yourself to the dungeon of eternal what-ifs.
Provision #6: Promise to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own
Those who have cultivated an optimistic attitude don’t see life as a zero-sum game. The goodies and blessings life offers are not ticking down to zero as others pick up their share. So optimists don’t believe that for every dollar someone else makes there’s one less for them.
Instead, optimists have an abundance mentality. They believe the pie is not only big enough for everyone, but that there truly is no pie. A slice of pie for one implies a smaller pie at the end of the day. Optimists don’t believe that.
Instead, be open to celebrate everyone’s successes, in part because you know you’re better off yourself for others’ achievements. There would be no space shuttle without the Wright Brothers’ earlier successes, after all. So celebrate others’ accomplishments as much as your own (or at least nearly so ;)).
The more others succeed, the more pervasive society will be infused with a culture of success. Then success will breed success and all people striving for excellence will be better positioned to create it.
My purpose here is not to put a self-interest twist to the creed’s provision, but to suggest that we also benefit as we seek and celebrate the good of others.
Provision #7: Promise to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future
Have faith in the future. Focus your concentration on doing, on taking action, on becoming. Be so consumed by the ideal of action that you have little room left to dwell on the mistakes and regrets of the past.
Learn what lessons you can from history (yours and others), make whatever amends need to be made, then move forward with new commit.
See life by way of its potential more than its shortfalls; its possibility more than its reality; its opportunity more than its history. (<– Tweet this!)
Provision #8: Promise to wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile
While optimists cry too and mourn the loss of loved ones, they are nonetheless generally cheerful by definition. They believe there is something amazing inside each of us. They are solution-oriented, because they believe there are solutions to life’s challenges. They believe life’s adversities are instructive and that they fine-tune qualities not yet matured.
So why wouldn’t they be cheerful? Life is simply better lived as an optimist. Because they walk around with an attitudinal sense of gratitude, they can smile when things are good and smile when things haven’t quite yet gotten good … yet.
Provision #9: Promise to give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others
As said earlier, optimists don’t go around with their heads in the clouds. They see the moral warts and personality wrinkles in the mirror just like everyone else. But they believe they can be improved upon. And since they always shoot for the best, they work on their insides as a matter of course.
Because they recognize their own shortcomings, they are slow to spend too much time recognizing others’ weaknesses. After all, weakness is no more than an opportunity for more personal growth! (<– Tweet this!)
So what is there to criticize? More growth opportunities?
Still, you should never confuse criticism with correction. The use of criticism is the use of the breaks. The use of correction is the use of the steering wheel. Criticism is complaint and condemnation. Correction is redirection and encouragement. So stop condemning and start encouraging. The difference in outcome will be extraordinary.
Provision #10: Promise to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble
Worry
Why worry when we can take action to minimize the likelihood of the thing being worried about? And if it’s something out of our control, what’s worrying going to do to help anyway? Optimists tend to do what can be done and leave the rest to work itself out. They are, after all, optimistic!
Anger
Anger is such a self- and relationship-destructive energy, especially the chronic variety. It’s filled with impatience and frustration and impotence. Anger, over time, sinks into the pit of the soul and cankers it. So optimists work to reduce it in both degree and frequency.
Since optimists already believe there are solutions to life’s problems, and that people are more than their actions, that they are also their potentials too, there is less in life to really get all that mad about anyway. We all live somewhere below our potentials so we’re really just talking about a matter of degrees. So why get all bent out of shape over a little more or a little less of what we do ourselves?
Fear
Fear stops us from stepping into the unknown. It limits our happiness because it prevents us from doing those things that build and improve happiness. It creates self-imposed barriers to excellence and therefore to living life the way it was meant to be lived.
But optimists already believe they can accomplish great things. All they need is the know-how, the desire and the direction. And so fear takes a back seat when an optimist is at the wheel.
Happiness
Optimism is a fundamental principle of happiness. Optimistic people are happier than pessimists. Note the wording of this final provision. Note that it does not challenge us to deny the existence of trouble, only not to permit the presence of it.
In other words, optimists know trouble brews in the world and in the hearts and minds of too many people. But they don’t invite trouble over for dinner. They deny its presence. They see whatever trial they experience as a challenge to learn from or a test to master or a mountain to climb.
Trouble? Of course not—it’s just another opportunity to grow and become what we were meant to be: happy, strong, positive, decent.
Afterthoughts
And so there you have it. The Optimist Creed is powerful even if not what I would have written in every instance. But it is a worthy guide as we maneuver our way through life, making it something to get excited about.
YOUR TURN!
Do you have a creed? What provisions would you add to this one? Which do you think should be revised or deleted? I would love to hear your response in the comments!
Wow. Pretty impressive list. The trick is to be mindful enough to keep them in practice. Life is an ongoing push toward perfection. Constant mindful effort!
Thanks,
DSG
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Good point. Ultimately, it becomes easier as we turn our mindful practices into habits, one trait, one characteristic, one attitude at a time. The more positive traits we can habituate, the easier it is to live life well without having to consciously think every moment. I am habitually optimistic, for example. I don’t have to stop and consider every thought and action I think or act out. That doesn’t stop me from being mindful in the moment as I choose, of course, it just doesn’t require the constant introspection.
But I do agree that “life is an ongoing push toward perfection.”
Here’s to the journey!
Such an inspirational text! I wish it was as easy as it sounds, sometimes, these promises could be really hard to realize. Resolutions like these need a really strong and balanced personality…
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Ho Flora! So do I! But such promises are difficult. They are really goals. As I said in the text, I would have worded the provisions of the creed differently. That’s one of the differences I would have made, to leave out the promise. When we commit to too many promises at once or to ones we’re not ready to make, we end up breaking them, violating something inside that yearns to be honest, feeling guilty for failing to meet the promises we made to ourselves.
Instead, we can look at them as a list of characteristics that we work on one at a time. This way, when we drop the ball, we are more inclined to just pick it back up and start back at it. Slowly, perhaps over a long period of time, the characteristic embeds itself into our character. It becomes part of us, a reflection of our inner selves. Then we can pick up another one and go at that one until it too is deeply embedded in our character.
This way we can also ensure we go at your pace. We work at it, but don’t run when we’re still learning to crawl.
Remember, it’s all a life-long process of development and growth. No internal judgments allowed! 🙂 It’s just a process. Falling down in the character or personality or attitude arena is no different than stumbling while practicing a new trick on a skateboard or a tricky dance move or working on a new piece of music on the piano. We don’t beat ourselves up then, so we shouldn’t as we stumble in other areas of life. Laugh at our own idiosyncrasies. Make course corrections. Then keep at it. And have fun watching ourselves evolve, even if at a snails pace.
Thanks Ken,
I had no idea there was an organization or a creed. 10 provisions that help remind me to love myself, my life and the world unconditionally. What a great way to live.
I am en-route to Latvia and Lithuania. This morning I set my intent to stay connected to love and consciously connect lovingly to those about me. What an awesome day so far and your post is the icing on the cake.
With aloha, Susan
Thrilled you found inspiration here, Susan!
What are you going to do in Latvia and Lithuania? You always seem to be heading off somewhere! So exciting!
Ken:
Excellent. I am sure I could add to this. We can always add. But, for some reason I feel it’s special just as it is, the way you have enhanced it.
My favorite, because I’ve never seen these words like this and they are so powerful and excellent, is this… “#9 Promise to give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.” I would say that relates to optimists having an abundance mentality, as #6 says, root for everyone else. Their success doesn’t diminish yours. Everyone can be successful!
Thanks Ken.
Best regards,
David
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Thanks David. IO liked the wording of #9 as well. I look at it a little differently, but similarly. My thought is that I have so much need of others’ patience with my idiosyncrasies that I can’t afford to worry too much about others’ shortcomings.
#6 is an important one. We are too easily distracted from the idea that others’ successes are little lessons to us and examples that shine lights on paths we hope to travel in our own way. But something I didn’t talk about in my commentary is the moral side of celebrating other people’s successes. We grow as human beings when we can be sincerely happy for others, especially when we are not so successful in that area. Not only do I undermine my own happiness, but also my character when I bemoan someone else’s achievement.
Thanks for the comment, David. Have an optimistic day, my friend!
Most people would want to become optimists and STAY that way. The problem with this is that it’s very tough for some people to just ‘get out of the rut’. That’s where inspirational comes into play.
I find Provision #1 and Provision #4 to more catered on becoming optimistic while the rest shows you how to sustain it. I think this is a great article for anyone looking to become and/or stay optimist regardless.
It is hard to start this energy, but once you gain it, it’s hard to stop it. A catch for everything I suppose!
I’ve recently got into video making because I realize that the power of music and voice speaking can really touch a person’s heart. It did for one when I watch soem of my favorite subscriber.
This is one of my far most touching one so far! 🙂
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JyX_O2n7YY
Hope you like it!
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Hey Dennis, I checked out your youtube video and am impressed. High quality footage and inspiring commentary. Well done! Inspiration can certainly motivate us to work at becoming more optimistic.
But to actually be an optimist requires retraining the brain to think in certain ways. It also requires developing certain beliefs about life and humanity and ourselves. It is the byproduct of habitual ways of thinking and believing. It’s the expectation that things will work out, that the end will be better than the means to get there.
You have an interesting take on the provisions, Dennis. I think I would say that the provisions for the most part are more an expression of what and how optimists think and act. It defines them, to some degree. It’s because optimists do these things that optimists are optimistic.
But you’re right about it being difficult to get the ball rolling. What helped me back when I was in my late teens, maybe early twenties was a book by the Father of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman called Learned Optimism.
Thanks for the thoughtful comment!
Ken,
I should of been more clear with my comment. I apologize about that.
I agree that in order to be optimistic, we would need to change our belief. My comment on where I said that we need inspiration, I meant that I use it as a supplement to my optimistic. Without inspiration, it would be very hard to change the way we belief… At least for me lol. But yes, it can be done without it if that’s what you’re looking for. 🙂
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Thanks for the clarification, Dennis. Yes, inspiration can be both the instigator to get us stepping in a particular direction and a source of strength and correction when we wander too far off course. So inspiration can be the source of our decision to start retraining our minds to think optimistically and a resource to fall back on in our weaker moments. Well said, Dennis.
Ken,
Thanks for spreading these words of inspiration and empowerment. I define optimism as the ability to keep your head up in the face of adversities. There’s always hope that things will get better and if they don’t, usually there’s something inside that needs to change before external circumstances would change.
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Great point, Lucas. Optimists certainly are much more able to keep their heads up during adversity if for no other reason than that they can always see light at the end of the tunnel. They believe things will work out, that they can learn and grow from every experience. The worse thing about pessimism during adversity, it seems to me, is the belief that things won’t work out. That would be a very lonely tunnel to travel.
Besides, a true pessimist may not even believe there is an exit at the other end of the tunnel. So why waste the time walking deeper into it? Pessimism often becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy that way. A pessimist who never walks to the end of the tunnel can say, “Look, this tunnel has no end because after 40 years of being in it, look! I’m still in it!” not realizing they’re still in it because they never took the steps needed to get out of it!
Great list. I like #2 especially. We often share complaints instead of positive thoughts or compliments. In my discussion group, we talked about how we often complain as a way to connect to others. We complain about the weather, the local team, politics, whatever. The reward we get is connection.
However, as you point out, the downside is that we emphasize the negative and bring others down with us. We connect at the bottom. Instead, as you suggest, we can offer something positive and bring ourselves and everyone around us up to the top. We still get our need for connection met, but now we are joined in joy instead of in grumpiness.
Good reminders, all.
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Sounds like your discussion groups provide members some pretty valuable opportunities to talk about some pretty amazing topics.
What a great insight, Galen: “We complain about the weather, the local team, politics, whatever. The reward we get is connection. However … the downside is that … We connect at the bottom.”
That reminds me of something I once read, saw or heard about bottom-dwelling fish being less nutritious or having more toxins or something negative about eating them compared to fish that spend more time up in the water, eating less of the junk that settles to the bottom. I guess we’re like that too. The more our minds and conversations sit at the bottom, the more our lives reflect the nature of that bottom.
Always such wisdom from you!
that’s a very important topic Ken
i was just reading an article about the harmful effect of negative words on the brain
thanks for helping us become more positive
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Thanks Farouk!
I think you’ll like Monday’s post as well. Do you know Tim Brownson of A Daring Adventure? He’s written a guest post called Why Changing Your Language Can Change Your Life. It’s truly good.
Negativity in all its forms is so debilitating and undermining. It traps us in cycles of self-defeat and cripples our ability to see clearly, to think creatively and act decisively.
Thanks for the comment, Farouk. Appreciated.
I wish I could be a person like you’ve described… I wish it was so easy to be an optimist…but the world around me doesn’t allow it for me to see the brightness!
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So sorry things are not as you wished they were. But I have a hard secret. One that is a difficult pill for many of us to swallow. Even Holocaust victims who had everything ripped from them including family, identity, possessions, dignity, respect, comfort, liberty and so much more, people who were beaten and starved and tortured and had innumerable indignities forced upon them, even such people were able to exercise this one noble freedom, this secret that most Holocaust victims never learned, but some did. It’s a secret I first discovered reading a book by a man named Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist who began formulating this principle while a victim, while locked up in Auschwitz and other death camps. It’s what he called the last human freedom. It’s the power to be able to choose your own response to the indignities and horrors that surround you.
It’s very difficult to hear than we are not total victims when we have felt that way for a long time. But even though things are crumbling down on our very heads, we can choose how to see those things, how we will interpret them, how we will perceive their meaning and effect in the long run. We can choose to stand or fall, to act or be acted upon, to decide or be decided for. This is tough, I know. But take some time and think about it. Consider deeply within yourself if there isn’t really some power you have to choose. There may be consequences to your choices you don’t like very much. But the choice is available. And if it is, you can choose how to think about those choices as well.
Other than that, try to do just one thing that will clear the clouds and help you see the sunlight more clearly. Avoid looking at the whole list of characteristics of an optimistic person. That can be very overwhelming if we are nowhere near it. Instead, focus on just one part of a trait and work to do that one thing for a week or a month. Then try another. Maybe you can start with trying to identify something about even the most horrible condition of your life right now that can teach you something valuable, perhaps about yourself or human nature or relationships. Try to see what is good about it, perhaps how it can build certain character muscles in you or emotional resiliency or patience or assertiveness.
Then let me know how it goes. I would love to hear back from you.
I need this today. I’m feeling a bit nervous about things. One thing I’ve always tried my hardest at, is rejoicing in the success and happiness of others. I know how wonderful it feels when people are happy for me, and I also know the flip side of this. I want to show the people close to me that they’re valued – so valued in fact, that I want the best to happen for them.
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So glad you found something helpful, Anne. We all need those boosts on “those” days! Do you have some big decision coming up? Hope the nerves settle a bit. For me, as I’m sure you already know, the best thing for my nervous moments is lots of preparation and taking action. I always get nervous before speaking to a large crowd of people, for example. But as soon as I start speaking, the nerves disappear. Of course, if I feel underprepared (which has happened before), then the nerves stay with me during the presentation.
I bet those close to you feel deeply valued by you, Anne. Thanks for the comment!
Wonderful and admirable goals to strive for. Thanks!
But, as many already have pointed out, hard to implement fully in real life.
I believe some individuals naturally are more positive than others (whether taught as children or inherited in their genes, or both), the interesting thing is how far the rest of us can reach by trying to think more in line with this creed?
Quite far, I think, at least further than we are right now.
Also, I think some of the wording of the creed is a bit too demanding for real life. I mean ALWAYS xxx, that’s not human…
I had to laugh a bit when I saw your “name” — Furries & The Happy Club! Looks like a fun children’s book.
I agree that there is likely some genetic predisposition in some toward certain personality traits. So perhaps optimism and the like may come more naturally to some, but like you, I also believe we can develop the traits we are not naturally born with. A great book that delves directly into that is Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman.
We both agree on some of the language as well. The “always” is something I would have left out had I written the creed.
Thanks for sharing your insight here.
I’m sure The Furries & The Happy Club will appeal to children but, it’s totally intended for grown ups.
Oops! Sorry. The hippo illustration made me think children. 🙂
Yeah! We get that a lot! 🙂
Guess we need to make the Furries do some naughty grown up stuff!
Thanks Ken!
In response to provision 5
“Being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity” Will Smith
I feel you have to believe, accept and value yourself and by doing so it will be hard not to be optimistic about life.
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Hey Jamie: I love the quote by will smith. That is how I feel about my life as of right now. My parents want me to follow in their footsteps, but I want otherwise. I want to make my own footsteps. My parents think that they are unrealistic footsteps. They want me to be realistic, but I would rather be different, you know?
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I’ve know lots of people in your shoes, William. As a high school teacher, I’ve seen it every year. Kids who want to major in art (or whatever) whose parents want them to become doctors (or whatever). For a lot of parents it’s a status thing. For others it’s worry that their babies will have to struggle their whole frustrated lives if they don;t make it doing something more risky or nontraditional.
And truth is, we should be honest with ourselves about our abilities, potential, and willingness to dedicate ourselves with single-eyed determination to become and do what we feel passionate about doing. If it’s not in us to dedicate ourselves to the skill, then maybe we should look into something else. Not everything we love to do has to be our vocation, after all. For some people, making a hobby their work makes them hate their hobby. It’s very much an individual thing here.
But if you’ve examined the mirror, so to speak, and the guts and grit are there to do what it takes in the pursuit of some other dream, then remember who it is that has to live your life. It won’t be your parents. So only you can choose that path. What may help is for them to see you grow as a person and in the specific area of your desired path. As they see you dedicate yourself to the point where all other distractions fall away and they see the person of character and responsibility you’re becoming in the process, their fears and concerns may decrease.
Keep at it, William, and work your butt off to get where you want to be!
Hey there, Jamie!
It takes commitment and sacrifice to always strive to be and produce the best. But it becomes a habit over time. Excellence becomes a mindset and the way we interact with the world. And as long as we don’t become obsessed with it to the point that we neglect other parts of our lives, it’s a good thing.
I like what you said here: “I feel you have to believe, accept and value yourself and by doing so it will be hard not to be optimistic about life.” Well said!
Ken: the creed is awesome and I think that it would be wonderful if I could live by it!
Provision #7 was awesome too, but I would never want to forget my mistakes of the past. I do not know if I would want to forget anything. I might be close to making a mistake, but remember what I did in the past and “catch” myself before it is too late.
Anyways, I can work on a few of the provisions because my life would greatly improve!
Good point, William, but I think the meaning is not to literally “forget” the past, but to learn the lessons needed, then move on. Don’t DWELL on the mistakes of the past, in other words.
As for working on the provisions, I’m confident we all have one or two we can work on.
That was very inspiring thoughts to read between the lines on how we can face life squarely. Indeed along the way we find that all those obstacles in life, we find it hard to adjust oneself but rather, that weakens us and our vulnerability were tested. I am a single parent but somehow I have learn that what makes my life more meaningful were my children. It was a long way struggle for me, but when the going gets tough the tough get going
I strongly believed that we can make our life better that for every journey that we take, optimism would greatly help ones life to success and our pursuit of happiness is much easier to live by.
Kudos for you Mr. Ken Wert
Thanks for sharing your wise insight.
So glad you bumped into us here at M2bH, Virginia!
You speak some wise words indeed. So often, people look somewhere else, at other peoples’ lives or into the next career or to the future or past to find meaning and purpose. But so much better to find it under your own feet, doing what you’re already doing. I’m thrilled you were bale to find that meaning in your children. Single parenthood is a hard thing for most people. To be able to step up to the demands of motherhood and love and bless the lives of your kids anyway, then to find that place of joy in the service is a very praiseworthy endeavor.
So kudos back to you, Virginia. And bless you for the greatest work humanity can do: raising the next generation with love and direction.
The optimists always see the sunny side of things. Always wear a sigh of relief even in times of trouble, instantly smile even in the middle of tears. Happiness is the epitome of their lives and enthusiastically radiate joy to the sorrounding.