“Character is much easier kept than recovered.” ~Thomas Paine
Back several months ago, my dad was admitted to the hospital for a routine removal of prostate cancer, the most common form of cancer in men. It was a routine operation, but they discovered the cancer had grown much larger than anticipated. Still, it was operable. No problem.
Routine removal notwithstanding, while on the operating table, due to complications not important for this telling, my dad’s heart stopped … three times! Today, he’s fine, but we almost lost him.
It got me thinking.
There are physical cancers that eat the flesh, consuming and devouring the physical body. There are medicines and procedures to eradicate such destruction. Sometimes and for some cancers, it works. Sometimes it doesn’t and the host – the mom or dad, the son or daughter, the brother or sister or grandparent dies prematurely.
And so with the human soul.
There are spiritual and moral cancers that eat at the human spirit as well.
They consume the moral will, devour character and compromise values and one’s integrity to high principles. They eat away at the characteristics and conditions that create a happy life.
Just as physical cancers can metastasize, spreading into other vital organs, entering bone marrow and spreading throughout the body of the person we love, becoming so pervasive it is no longer treatable, moral cancers can equally shorten our spiritual life expectancies, infecting our relationships, and our sense of self-worth.
In such conditions, moral cancers weaken the moral immune system and other moral infections can, and often do, set in.
The following list warns of some of those moral and spiritual cancers that are best eradicated early on to prevent metastasizing and the subsequent corruption of other vital moral organs, and the social and emotional damage that often follows in the wake of their destruction.
FIVE MORAL CANCERS
1. Pride
This moral cancer corrupts brain cells, affecting perception. It often has a puffing-up effect, distending its proper dimensions until the pressure becomes unbearable and the host of this cancer begins hallucinating visions of grandeur, of dominance, detached independence, and can lead to a holier-than-thou attitude.
Other mood-related diseases that can develop as a result of the ravages of this cancer include fits of anger when others don’t agree or obey. Symptoms include an aversion to uncomfortable truth, an allergic reaction to introspection and intolerance to being corrected. They are therefore slow to learn from others or from life. They believe, after all, that they already have all the answers.
Misdiagnosis: Don’t mistake confidence for the moral cancer that pride is. Confident people can be very humble, open to learning life’s lessons and even seeking others’ opinions. It is the emotional maturity of self-confidence that emotionally permits the vulnerability of potentially being proved wrong.
Treatment: A daily injection of humility is needed as soon as possible. Often, life will pull down the ivory towers of the proud as trials and adversities crack the foundation.
But in the meantime, learn to recognize the interdependency of life. Recognize and thank those who make your life possible: spouse, parents, teachers, police officers, grocery store clerks, for instance. Get in the habit of expressing gratitude. It’s recommended as well, that those suffering from this illness spend lots of time on their knees.
2. Selfishness
This illness can paralyze its victims with a sense of entitlement. They can get extremely demanding as life fails to serve them as they believe they ought to be served. They are turned inward to the point that others around them feel sucked into a solar system that revolves around their self-centeredness. But the more focused they are on themselves, the more elusive happiness is.
Why? Because happiness is best created by serving others, turning our focus outward. That’s not the mindset of the selfishness-inflicted patient. Marriages and children and all other relationships are strained, at best, and collapse with advanced stages of this disease.
The cancer of selfishness blinds the eyes to others’ needs. This leads to insensitivity in word and deed. They tend to be takers, always looking out for what’s in it for them. They are easily offended because they see the world in terms of how it affects them. They think and speak in the personal pronoun. All surrounds the ever-present Me!
This cancer causes a form of turrets syndrome whereby the poor person so inflicted will often blurt out things like: “How dare you!” when the thing dared has nothing to do with them.
Misdiagnosis: Beware of this misdiagnosis, for self-respect can fool the untrained eye. Self-respecting people can regularly be found doing things that benefit them, that renew them, things they enjoy doing: reading, running, skiing, going to the gym, playing guitar or the piano or flute, painting, working on a project that’s important to them.
Self-respecting people are not willing to go along with the crowd for the sake of going along, especially if it includes compromising their values. Self-respect can appear selfish (to the selfish), but is not.
Treatment: Prevention is the best cure for this epidemic. Selfishness is best inoculated against by regular doses of service: donate to your favorite cause, give blood, volunteer at a local food bank, coach a youth team, organize a service project in your community or for your church, volunteer at your child’s school, stop to help push a stalled car, help a neighbor move, look for opportunities to bless others’ lives in small and larger ways.
And take note of how you feel about yourself, those you serve, and life itself as you do for others. You just may come to like that feeling!
3. Greed
I’ve seen many cases of greed so ravage the people infected, that they live in a constant state of unhappiness. They are unfulfilled and can never enjoy what they have or what they have done for very long. They habitually want more and more and more, to the point that more important things take back seat, if permitted into the car at all. They want what others have and want it so badly that other parts of their lives can become infected as well.
Often, values become compromised and character undermined as the greedy place the objects of their greed at higher value than their moral standards. Then unsavory methods for attaining what they want corrupt the very things they get.
Symptoms include paying very close attention to what their neighbors have, feeling ripped off by circumstances for whatever is falling apart in their lives and an increasing use of dishonesty and deception to get what they want.
Misdiagnosis: Ambition can share some of the qualities of this disease. But ambition, a drive to improve oneself and the conditions of one’s family, is not necessarily the same moral illness.
The ambitious can work hard at growing a business, at living a better life, but their focus is on the condition it creates for themselves and those they love. They are driven to succeed from a value they place on what they do and who they are.
The ambitious are driven to improve themselves, their marriages, their children’s lives. They want to improve what they do and how they do it. They can be obsessed, but it is an obsession with excellence. The greedy, by contrast, are obsessed with the having, not the becoming.
Treatment: Nothing short of a full values-transfusion will really work for this cancer. Old values of greed must be drained and replaced with a value system that respects people and moral values higher than things, that values moral standards higher than prestige or power or wealth, that justifies the end by virtue of its means.
It’s recommended that those suffering bouts of greed practice the art of giving. Regularly.
4. Lust
This virus manifests itself in the form of broken vows and double lives. It leads to shifting eyes and shifting hearts.
Its symptoms are sneaking and lying and filling hearts with illicit thoughts that break the spirit of solemn commitments to monogamous love. It breaks hearts and sows distrust and creates insecurity and doubt in relationships. It softens the will and undermines self-respect. Secret images in magazines, movies or online break down moral immune systems giving life to this metastasizing cancer.
Misdiagnosis: Lust can sometimes appear as romantic love because both include desire for the object of that love. But lust is self-serving. It desires gratification.
Romantic love desires the expression of its ultimate yearning, but first seeks to be a source of strength to what it loves. It seeks what’s best for the other even if that means waiting for the ultimate expression for the right time, right place and right context.
Lust doesn’t care so much for contexts and timing. It wants pleasure for pleasure’s sake, and it wants it now!
Treatment: This pandemic needs to be quarantined. All images, literature and film that stimulate such wanton desire need to be sterilized, replaced by spiritual and moral content. Scripture and other moral literature can renew the heart to moral re-dedication. But don’t be fooled by signs of remission. Continual vigilance is a must! Relapse is commonplace when guards are let down.
5. Cowardice
The cancer of cowardice is much worse than the infection of fear. Those suffering from cowardice experience a sort of paralysis. It eats away at the internal organs of resolve and determination. It stops us from taking action. It prevents us from doing what we should do when that thing lays outside our comfort zone or places us in potential harm’s way. It therefore keeps doors of opportunity and growth shut and locked.
It also prevents us from developing and exercising character in moments of opposition and difficulty. This cancer can lead to knee-lock, stopping us from standing up for what’s right.
Misdiagnosis: Fear can be misdiagnosed as cowardice but is not the same thing. Fear can cause its own problems when misplaced. But most of us fear taking steps into the unknown. We fear standing up for what’s right when we know we’ll be opposed. We worry about being ostracized by others for the moral stances we take. It can be very scary. And that’s okay most of the time if we still take proper steps toward the object of that fear.
The virus of fear turns to cowardice only when it stops us from moving forward, from doing what we believe is right. If we are paralyzed by our fear, it is a good indication that the fear has grown into the more destructive character cancer of cowardice.
Treatment: Cowardice requires a self-delivered shot of selflessness. The more self-centered we are, the less willing we will be to risk death or discomfort or even embarrassment. We will believe in self-preservation more than in a set of values or principles worthy of sacrificing for. Love of decency, love of others and love of doing what’s right will help reduce the cowardly impulse.
Still, there are other procedures to treat cowardice: Try imagining yourself courageously overcoming your fears over and over again, beating the paralysis in your mind time after time. Then practice being courageous. Start small and work toward increasingly braver behavior until cowardice has been surgically removed from the body of your life.
Final thoughts
Just like the ravages of the physical disease, if left untreated, these character cancers can spread to our vital moral organs, corrupting other traits and characteristics, damaging self-respect and eating away at the flesh of self-worth. So as you diagnose your own moral cancers, seek to eradicate them from your life immediately. You will then live a much more rewarding, self-confident life of integrity to higher values.
As you do that, life will be sweeter, filled with more meaning and, ultimately, more happiness.
It would mean a lot to me if you would share your thoughts in the comments.
What are your experiences with these character cancers? Any forms I missed? Which is the most challenging? How have you overcome your own character cancers?
And please share!
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I think in general what many of us suffer with in America is greed. It is so easy to take more than you need, but having too much does not lead to happiness. It leads to cluttered homes and closets. I personally have times of looking at my home and thinking I don’t need half the stuff I have and how there are so many people who could use what I have in excess. Not to mention it is bad for the environment to take more than you need. Thanks for getting me thinking!
Hi Wendy!
That is so true! It is so easy to chase the physical rewards of a productive life up hills and down holes until we’re left holding the treasures of earth but none of the stuff that adds true joy and happiness to a life well lived. Thank you for pointing that out.
As for cluttered closets, I’m with you on that one! We read a lot about minimalism these days, with zenhabits only chief among the proliferation of similar blogs. While I don’t think I’m ready to take that step, certainly reducing the clutter would be a step worth taking for the very reasons you gave.
Thank you so much for your contribution here, Wendy. It’s always so valued!
Hi Ken,
I like this and it’s very true. Pride is a huge problem nowadays for many. It does cloud perception.
My biggest concern with pride is that the person affected becomes emotionally detached from their family. This will leave the person bitter and alone at old age.
And If I may also say, that pride and cowardice our intertwined. The prideful person is to too scared to do what is right which is to humble themselves.
Hello there, Vic! Good to see you again!
Aren’t we all tainted with pride to some degree once in a while? It’s a rare person who is without any trace of this moral cancer. But you are so right to point out the damage it can do to perception and also to families. I’ve known husbands and wives who’s pride got in the way of reconciliation as they tried to work out long-standing issues between them. It becomes an effort to get the other person fixed instead of trying to mutually work through problems together. It’s rather sad.
Vic, I find your statement about pride and cowardice being intertwined to be very wise. I think you make a great point here. Humility truly requires an deep inner strength and confidence that allows for the vulnerability of teach-ability. Pride, on the other hand, is often a mask that hides self-doubt and fear.
Thanks for sharing here, Vic!
Brilliant post Ken!!
I loved reading through the misdiagnosis and the treatment.
I actually just had a talk with someone today about the adverse effects of stress. Yet some people don’t believe in, or at least care to, it’s very real threats.
Just like people don’t see how this different type of caner’s are really eating away at who that person is. It’s effects are just as detrimental – yet I feel we think strictly in physical terms for something to really mean anything.
I think your treatment for selfishness is spot on. Does the cure for me every time. Nothing beats that feeling.
As far as what I struggle with the most right now. Well it might be a combination of lust and greed. For instance the other day I met an extraordinary individual who was well established as a professional facilitator working with a number of different organizations. On top of that he talked about a number of different projects he does in Africa. Couldn’t help but feel envious and constantly wanting more.
Really amazing post Ken!
Thanks so much, Chris!
I’ve found in my experiences with others, that you’re likely right about thinking people often take the physical ailments more seriously and, like you said, are more likely to consider them real than the moral or emotional diseases. But you hit it dead on, Chris: Our potential is muffled and kept out of reach by these moral shortcomings. Gladly, there truly are ways to “treat” them, though. I shared only a small fraction of what’s possible to overcome the pull of pride and selfishness, greed, lust and cowardice, but I agree with you about service doing the trick every time for selfishness.
Still, such things are part of the human condition. We are all plagued with some combination of them at some point in our lives (for many, throughout their lives). But our potential is reached only as these cancers are rooted out of our characters.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, my friend.
PS: As long as you feel the desire to be able to do what your facilitator friend can do, still feeling happy for his successes, but feel inspired to work to likewise do the kinds of things he does, I think you’re likely still on the positive side of ambition more than greed.
Hi,
I think for me the intolerable are greed and lust. Greed well just saw a movie Sunday called Chasing Madoff. Insane. Then lust…good luck with the porn industry out of control. Their target market is 8 year old boys. They want to teach them about sex before their parents ever do. How sad is that. I have to be blunt about these two. Can’t hold back.
Tess!
Don’t hold back! No need to. It is a pernicious industry. I’m always taken aback at the young ages and increasingly the fact that girls are becoming addicted to it as well. And it’s all just a click or two away. So prevalent and so accessible. Throw the human proclivity for lust into the mix and you’ve got the making for a social/moral conflagration!
Never saw the movie, but the name certainly suggests a story of wonton greed (and perhaps a dose of pride and lust for power as well!).
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Tess.
Hello Ken,
I feel so privileged to have been led here by a FB post that the extraordinary Rob White posted – I’m so thankful!!
Great, potent article and a must read for everyone in my opinion!
Cowardice was once an issue with me, until I went completely through the fire and survived. We live in an interesting time of witness amazing cowardice and it is a cause for deep concern.
I think selfishness breaks my heart the most because oh what you miss when you think only of yourself or yourself above others. Life and people are in great need of your greatness, so be as selfless as possible.
Thank you for allowing me to reflect on these issues here today Ken – they’re so important.
I’ve subscribed to your blog and am so looking forward to learning more from you!
Have a fantabulous day!
Much kindness,
Elena
Wow, Elena! What an amazing comment you left me. Thank you so much. I’m thrilled you found M2bH and thank you also for subscribing. That means a lot tome. By the way, I like your opinion! 🙂
Isn’t interesting how we humans sometimes have to hit the lowest of the lows in our lives before we rise to the occasion and develop that trait that got us into the mess to begin with? Sometimes it takes being able to sink no lower to start swimming up in the direction of our potential.
You’re right about selfishness, Elena. The world is in dire need of a brand of leadership that comes from the hearts of people willing to give of themselves. We all need that. That’s really what a parent is supposed to be: Selfless givers.
Elena, it was a pleasure to read your reflection. Please come again and reflect as often and as long as you desire.
Have a wonderful week of selfless giving and undaunted courage and the joy that is the byproduct of such living!
Ken
I was taken by the powerful analogy that you have used to display some of the afflictions that seem to be prevalent amongst today’s society. However, you have been complete with your metaphor in greater ways, as you have also highlighted what the maladies are not, as well as potential treatment of such conditions. I applaud you; it might have been easier to be provocative & pathological only – you also added fresh positive perspective too, which is a great remedy for our own ‘stinkin’ thinkin’, to quote Zig Ziglar.
I have subscribed in the hope of gaining more of your interesting insights – keep up the superb work
Warmest regards,
Grant Willcox – Success Coach
Thank you Grant. I really appreciate your kind words.
When I first started writing the post, I didn’t have the “misdiagnosis” or “treatment” sections in mind. I had 5 moral cancers I identified and that was it. But it didn’t take long before I realized it needed those distinction.
I was reminded of Aristotle’s ethical means, the virtuous middle point between two extremes. I knew I needed some distinctions between the character flaw and those traits that might share characteristics but shouldn’t be considered flaws necessarily as well.
Then almost immediately, I recognized another glaring weakness. Why talk about a condition without talking about a remedy? The only problem was that my word count went WAY above the recommended limit that most professional bloggers talk about.
But after going over the article several times with my editor’s cap on, I just couldn’t make any deletions without altering unacceptably what I wanted to say. So I left it in.
I’m glad it seems to have worked out the way I hoped it would. Thanks so much for subscribing! Now the pressure’s me to consistently write quality posts! 🙂
Have a great week, Grant!
can’t agree more Ken
each of these problems can ruin ones life and slow down personal progress
thanks for giving us advice about dealing with them
Hey there, Farouk!
You’re right, they truly can act like cancers, crippling our ability, as you say, to grow and progress. Each one is much more than a vice of itself. It affects other areas of life as well, creating internal and external obstacles to living life to its fullest. Thanks for pointing that out!
BTW: I look forward to posting your guest post here Monday, Oct. 3rd. It’s a wonderful article on tackling procrastination and reaching those big goals that can seem so difficult and overwhelming. Thanks for your common sense approach, Farouk!
Ken, You are one of the best blog writers I have encountered. I am not kidding. I’m still laughing about the mosquito. And your line in this post “This cancer causes a form of turrets syndrome whereby the poor person so inflicted will often blurt out things like: “How dare you!” when the thing dared has nothing to do with them.” was simply brilliant. I laughed out loud again!
Your approach to your topic here was so creative. When I saw the post title, I sort of knew where you were headed, but I did not anticipate the carefully crafted analogy to physical cancer, complete with symptoms, misdiagnosis, and treatment. That was genius.
Your writing is so good, I was wondering if you would explain a bit of your process, using this post as an example. I understand that your father’s cancer was the initial inspiration. (So glad he’s doing fine!) And I understand how you made the connection to moral cancers. But how did you decide on these five moral cancers, and how did you go about structuring the symptoms, etc.?
Or if you prefer, you might discuss your writing process in general.
And if you would really prefer, you can dismiss this request as simply too much work, and just know that I admire your writing a great deal and would like to learn whatever I can from you!
Well, Galen, I have to say that you absolutely made my day! I ran home from work, huge grin in hand, and read it to my wife (husbands are allowed to brag to their wives!). Thank you so much. I can’t tell you how much your kindness meant to me.
I have to say that I never considered writing about writing, but you got me thinking. As a matter of fact, I started jotting down some notes soon after reading your comment the other day (that’s why it’s taken me this long to reply, by the way!). I’ll let you know when it takes shape and form enough to post and would like to ask your permission to make reference to this comment in that post. Please let me know however you would like (reply here or email).
Thank you again, Galen. I am deeply flattered and touched.
PS–
I nominated you for the Tripbase My 7 Links project. If you will go to my current post, A Stroll Down Memory Lane, you will see the links to get your blog posts included. Let me know if you have any questions.
All the best,
Galen
email galenpearl@gmail.com
Wow! Thank you! I have taken a look and will start putting something together. I’ll take a closer look at the process too and contact you if I can’t figure it out. 🙂
Thanks, Galen!
I think that the mental/ spiritual cancer create the physical cancer. Being in this world we can see that having beliefs that limit us and limit our connections to the world as a whole does not serve anyone.
Hi Justin! Thanks so much for your always-honest expression of your thoughts and experiences here and elsewhere. It is truly appreciated.
Are you suggesting ALL cancer is created by problems with the mind and/or spirit?
While I have no problem with the concept of the body being affected by the mind, I shy way away from anything nearing absolutism in this area (not suggesting, by the way, that you are absolutist, however). Our moods (affected by thought), can alter our biochemistry which can, over time, have a terrible influence on cell mutation.
But there are childhood cancers that can’t be explained by anything but genetics. I have a good friend whose 8-year-old son was diagnosed with a cancer in his leg that ended in amputation to keep it out of the rest of his body.
This kid was the one-legged basketball captain of his high school team last year and is a natural leader. You would never believe he is missing a leg by the way he lives his life. He is the epitome of courage and kindness and positive energy.
But if children can be attacked by this horrible disease, it seems to me that adults could be attacked as well, notwithstanding living a positive and loving life. With all the toxins we breath and consume, it’s no wonder that cancer is so prevalent.
Anyway, what do you think? Would love to get your feedback on this.
In the meantime, have an amazing weekend!
Hi Ken,
I would say that the thoughts and feelings of the “bloodline” caused the child to be born with the disease. It’s definitely not a child’s thoughts that created the illness.
It’s definitely not all thought either when it comes to disease even though thoughts do play a factor in it.
If I worked in a coal mine, and my son worked in a coal mine, and his son worked in a coal mine and all of us died at a young age from cancer than it is very probable that the disease of cancer would become prevalent in the genetics.
But if we had healthy thoughts about ourselves and our health than we probably would never take a job that was life risking like being a coal miner.
Just my 2 cents.
Take Care Ken.
Food for thought. Thanks for sharing, Justin.
Great article!!!! I have always felt greedy for being ambitious, I appreciate you making the distinction clear.
Thanks for writing it!:)
very good article, good character is hard to come by, that is why there is so much craziness in this world.