I frequently hear well-meaning people tell wide-eyed youngsters that they can become whatever they want to become.
It is such an encouraging and inspiring thing to say to someone who is trying to figure out where in life to aim their time, energy and effort.
The only problem is that it’s just not entirely true. Life simply imposes some limitations on us, and we ought to be aware of what those limitation are so we don’t find ourselves down a path that dead ends.
Like it or Not, Life Imposes Conditions
If you never grow taller than 5’3” then sorry to break it to you, but you will never become a professional basketball player. If you were born deaf, you will never become a professional music critic. If you were born to Slovakian parents in Bratislava, you will never become the President of the United States.
That’s just the way things are. There are limits placed on us from time to time by circumstance. I’m 6’4” and will never be a professional horse jockey, for instance.
It wouldn’t matter how badly I hungered to earn my livelihood riding race horses, how positively I thought about it, how completely I manifested it or how hard I worked at it. That door is closed, locked and dead-bolted to me. Period. To believe otherwise is self-delusion.
Ride Your Horse Anyway
But does that mean I can’t ride horses? Or even race them? Does it mean I can’t play in a basketball league just because I’m too short to play professionally? Does it mean I can’t feel the pulse of music speak to my soul and write about it on a blog that no one or everyone comes to read? Am I banned from a life of politics just because a particular office is constitutionally off-limits?
If you have a passion for something, pursue it! If it courses in your veins, give it life. Develop your talents. Become great at what you do. There is beauty and life and happiness and meaning in it irrespective of the dollar value others will or will not pay you to express it.
Something comes alive and grows and expands and blooms inside of us when we pursue those things that stir our souls–even if only as a hobby.
Vocation or Avocation
Who said we had to get other people to pay us to do what we love to do? If you love it, do it because you love it. If others will pay you for it, fine. If not, find something they will pay you to do, and do what moves you in your free time.
It’s a mistake to expect others to pay us to do what we love. If what we love is marketable, more power to you, of course. But if not, so be it. There are still ways to express your passion and still keep food in the fridge and the mortgage paid on time.
Your happiness depends on it.
Hi Ken,
So true, so true! I like your solution to the reality that life doesn’t always way for the things that make your heart sing. “Ride your horse anyway.” 🙂 I have found a balance between running our family business and satisfying my need to write (my passion). This means publishing my blog only once a week and writing my (second) book on the weekends and evenings when I have the time and energy. The rest of the time is dedicated to the thing that pays the bills!
I especially like how you say, “If you love it, do it because you love it.” Precisely. Just do it.
Lori
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Amen to this. It is true that we can’t be whatever we want. There are limitations. If you can get paid for your passion great, but if not find passions to do in your free time because they enhance the life you live. I won’t ever be a professional basketball player or tennis player but that doesn’t mean I need to stop playing the sports. Have dreams and at the same time be realistic. Keep up the great work Ken! Hope you enjoy being back in school.
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I love the last part of this, Ken – Vocation or Avocation. That is a very good way to look at the pursuit of what you love. And hey, you just never know, right? Just drawing on my English teacher perspective for a moment, think of all the writers who were not writers by trade, but simply for personal reasons? And yet, there they are, still sitting in the textbooks and being hailed as some of the best. If they had not done what they loved aside of their perhaps more practical life choices, we would not have their words to entertain and inspire us.
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Thanks Ken,
I have found that love always finds a way. The greater the passion the more likely I am to find a way to succeed.
Good to know I don’t have to worry about becoming a basketball star … just being a good writer and life coach is enough and is my calling!
Hi Ken,
I love your article. Very thought provoking.
You are so right. We should not feel entitled to get paid simply because we love to do something. And getting paid is only a great byproduct of doing something marketable, that serves others, that we love.
Josh
Great points, but Muggsy Bogues was 5′ 3″ and an NBA star. Always an exception to the rule, which I think many people hold on to. And who is to say they’re wrong?
Actually I totally know, what you write about.. but I always knew that passion never pays at the beginning of a long road. But it ALWAYS is worth to be passionate about what you do, even it is a hobby or a professional. In my case, a former hobby turned into professional with desktop 3d printers and my own designs. And it is the best feeling ever to get up every morning and work on your own projects like it was weekend:)
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If you have a passion and develop your skillset, you can still find a way to enjoy your passion with a little compromise. Take your example of a shorter person playing in the NBA, they could at least go for coaching or some other role within the organization. So all hope isn’t lost, even when the odds are completely stacked against you. As long as you’re able to remain flexible about being “paid for your passion”.
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Hi Ken, you said right at all. Even people can’t get anything they want at something but they still can do it by they love to do, passion about. Because it bring enjoy, happy in process for them, when they do with their best, they will give good value to this world. Even don’t have big famous on things they love to do but they have all happy and total control their life as they want with fulfilling of mean. Thank for share