“The Olympics remain the most compelling search for excellence that exists in sport, and maybe in life itself.” ~ Dawn Fraser, Australian swimmer and 4-time Olympian Gold Medalist
Every four years the Olympic Games return and capture our collective imagination once again.
I find myself watching (and sincerely getting excited about) events I would NEVER watch on my own outside the Olympics.
Why is this?
I think the answer, at least for me, is that there is nothing else out there that is such a universal celebration of raw ability.
It is unadulterated talent on display.
It is the physical manifestation of the payoff of hard work and dedication to human possibility.
It is in the pure and authentic celebration of human excellence at its finest and most innocent.
We are awed by those who push themselves to do the seemingly impossible, thereby declaring in living color that most impossibilities are only opinion and only for now.
The Games inspires me. More accurately, the athletes at the Games do. They motivate me to want to rise a little higher. I’m moved by the backstories of so many of this year’s Olympians. The obstacles many have had to overcome just to be here have been breathtaking.
When things get tough, I’m reminded of athletes whose very hardships made them who they are today. Their ability grew out of the necessity of the moment. Their stamina was a direct result of the pain they pushed through, of life’s mountains they had to climb to get to the top of their game.
The stories are inspiring reminders that the human will is a powerful force that can get us over hurtles of all kinds.
And so I share with you an introduction to the backstories of just 6 athletes whose accomplishments defy their pasts, and thereby encourage us to do more with the circumstances we’ve been given, prompting us to reach higher than the mediocrity we’ve sometimes settled for.
6 Awe-Inspiring Backstories
… that will make you reevaluate just how limiting the obstacles are in your life.
Lolo Jones
Lolo grew up in poverty, her single-parent mom often holding two jobs just to keep food on the table, never quite knowing how they were going to pay the bills. Their poverty kept the family moving, requiring Lolo to attend eight schools in eight years.
After being evicted from their home, they lived homeless in the basement of a church. Lolo would wake up early for school to avoid the embarrassment of being seen coming out of a church basement.
The family soon had to move once more, but Lolo had a burning dream. The new school didn’t have a track. But Lolo had to run. It was here that she parted with her family when her coach arranged living accommodations with various local families so Lolo could continue to pursue her dream.
As she began to make a name for herself as a runner and hurdler, she began to entertain dreams of making the 2004 Olympic team. It was a bitter loss when she didn’t.
But that stumble in her running career only made her more determined to qualify for 2008. She did, but stumbled there too, only a bit more literally. So she started training 2-4 hours a day for a race that would last only 12 seconds. She’s now waiting for her second shot at Olympic Gold in London.
“I always use my failures as motivation,” she said. “It was natural because I had seen my mom do it her whole life.”
Failure is no more than a mindset. It is what you make of it. So make it no more — but no less — than the stepping-stone that takes your life somewhere amazing.
Adrien Niyonshuti
Adrien started competitive cycling when he was 19 years old, just three years after an uncle lent him a bike to compete in a local cycling event in Rwanda. He fell in love with the sport and began training hard, perhaps to help forget the horrific memories of the Rwandan Genocide of 1994 where his six brothers were murdered.
He was able to escape that fate by hiding in small holes in the ground during the genocidal rage that took more than 800,000 lives. His life in Rwanda was difficult and poor.
Just last year, as a matter of fact, Adrien stepped foot inside his first hotel while at a sponsored cycling event. He had his fist experience with hot running water there. Often, he even slept on the floor to avoid spoiling the luxuriousness of the hotel bed.
Now he is the first cyclist to ever represent Rawanda at the Olympic games, and one of only four coming from that war-torn county to London this year.
You don’t always choose what will be written on the pages of your history, but you can choose what you will write on the pages of your future. So choose well.
Lopez Lomong
When Lopez was just 6 years old, he was attending church when his village was attacked by Sudanese soldiers and ironically imprisoned by the Sudan People’s Liberation Army.
After watching his friends slowly die around him in the camp, he decided to escape. With the help of a few other boys, he was able to fit through a hole in the fence and ran for three days and nights to safety across the Kenyan border where he spent 10 years in a refugee camp.
Catholic Charities brought him to America after a moving letter he wrote asked the organization for help. He was sponsored by an American family and began going on long runs, perhaps in memory of his life in Africa.
Now he runs for other reasons.
Life’s obstacles are nothing more than obstacles. They are inanimate objects, events and circumstances, lacking the power to decide the nature of the path we travel. Only we can do that. We decide whether they cripple or motivate, whether they end or begin dreams.
Shannon Boxx
Playing midfield on the U.S. Women’s Soccer team, Shannon hopes for her third straight Olympic gold.
And yet in 2002 she was diagnosed with an autoimmune condition, which put her at risk for other autoimmune diseases, leading to contracting Lupus in 2007.
Lupus is an autoimmune disease itself that attacks the living cells and tissue of its host, especially targeting joints, skin, kidneys, lungs, the heart and the nervous system. She’s determined to make sure the disease never defines her.
“I want people to see I’m playing through this and to encourage them to stay active. I never want to use the disease as an excuse.”
Excuses are everywhere for why we do or don’t do, act or fail to act. But those excuses, while often understandable, are the recipe for the poison that kills our determination to do something profound with our lives. So make none.
Guor Marial
Guor is one of only 4 Olympians to run under the Olympic flag as an independent. He simply refused to run for the country he fled saying, “If I ran for Sudan, I would be betraying my people. I would be dishonoring the two million people who died for our freedom.”
Guor is a South Sudanese refugee marathon runner who began his running career by running from a Sudanese labor camp where 28 relatives died. He survived by hiding in a cave with a jaw that had been broken by soldiers.
He ran his very first marathon just last year, running fast enough for an Olympic qualifying time in that one race alone.
Sometimes buried deeply within the pain we are called to suffer is the seed to a level of greatness unreachable without that pain that coaxed it to the surface.
Queen Underwood
Queen Underwood is a fighter in more ways than the obvious. She fought through years of sexual abuse by her father. She fought back from drug addiction. She now fights to make a difference.
“I am a Winner because what could have destroyed me didn’t,” she wrote on her website. “It made me stronger, more determined and more focused.”
“Success is a journey not a destination,” she continued. “The Olympic Gold is part of this journey, the beginning, not the end.”
“I’ve overcome abuse, I’ve learned to take control of my body through discipline and belief that nobody will make me feel helpless again.”
We can lie down and wait for life to bless us, delivering us from our difficulties. Or we can fight for what we want, to become who we were meant to be.
Afterthoughts
It’s true that circumstances often define us. We can adopt our external conditions as our internal identity, defining the essence of who we are. But that’s not a recommended course of action.
Rather, like Underwood, Boxx, Niyonshuti and all the others, we can refuse to allow the pain and challenge of history to continue playing out in our lives today. We can carve out a new path, redefine our circumstances, refuse to let the difficult or traumatizing or heart-wrenching restrict us along the path we are blazing for ourselves.
But even Olympians crash and burn.
Failure is a stepping stone to learn what not to do next time, to evaluate mistakes and what goals to set to reduce the likelihood of repetition.
Failure highlights areas of needed growth and improvement.
Failure can defeat us or motivate us to climb higher, work harder, run faster, push through and overcome and become a living manifestation of the indomitable spirit of excellence.
The Olympic Games thrill me because I love human excellence in all its forms. And although the Games reflect the physical most obviously, if we take the time to look beneath the surface, the athletes reflect so much more than mere physical excellence.
The Games embody determination, dedication, will and stamina. They reflect the refusal to allow life to get in the way of living it at its highest, pushing for what seems impossible, reaching amazing levels of human capability.
There is passion and drive, hard work, sacrifice and blood sweat and tears in every step, every jump, every stumble, every break and tear and sprain and twist and dislocation too.
Each story underscores a life that has been lived with delayed gratification for a higher goal, the discipline to push through pain and learn from mistakes and the power of practice and repetition and preparation.
The Olympic level of human capacity underscores the journey the athletes traveled to hone a skill, learn a craft, develop an ability and learn from others.
Coaches and life experiences and those with a slightly better time in their field, competing on a world stage where histories and politics and governments largely fade into the background, even if never out of sight, as athletes compete with athletes in a dramatic contest of the human spirit to excel, these athletes, par excellence, must dig deep into their souls and draw out something most of us leave buried there.
Perhaps the ultimate draw and influence of the Olympic Games is in the motivation they lend us to do some soul-digging of our own.
YOUR TURN!
What lessons have you drawn from the Games this year?
Who have I left off the list?
Why do you love (or hate) the Games?
We would love to hear from you in the comments below.
The games are inspiring to me because you see such magnificant sportsmanship with such fierce competition.
One you left off is Ireland’s gymnast, Kieran Behan. He has been told twice in the past 13 years that he may never be able to walk again, but is at the 2012 Olympics! Amazing.
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/27/sports/olympics/against-odds-kieran-behan-of-ireland-to-compete-in-3-gymnastics-events.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all
Thanks for that inclusion (and link), Kimberly. What a story Kieran has about the refusal to give in against all odds. Truly inspiring!
Yes, the sportsmanship has been impressive, for sure. I’ve been impressed by both the winners and those who fell short of their dreams. And the on-the=spot interviews have yielded some pretty impressive attitudes. All so inspiring!
Great post Ken …
I was watching one of the events the other day and was struck by the look on the woman’s face when she lost. I could only imagine what that felt like, to train most of your life, be on the world stage and not get a medal. I would love to know how the athletes process something like that.
I guess it is a case of the glass half empty or half full. To be able to make it to the Olympics is a feat and a testament to that person’s drive and talent in itself. What an incredible experience. We, the viewers get to watch incredibly talented people who have overcome the odds, many of them with health challenges and political turmoil.
The Olympics are spectacular and even though I am not a sports fan I find myself watching in fascination.
With awe,
Susan
Hi Susan!
I’ve watched those same faces. Oh the pain! But so often, I read stories of Olympians who come back 4 years later determined and even fueled by their previous miss. I look at Lochte who decided to use 2008 as the reason to become the one everyone talks about in 2012. But it is difficult to see the pain in their eyes.
I sure hope that in the days and weeks following the less-than-Gold accomplishments, that these athletes recognize the amazing success of having reached the Olympics at all.
Ken:
I enjoyed your comments. I, too, watch numerous events that I ordinarily do not watch — for me it’s because I find the level of ability to be awe inspiring. The gymnasts, the divers, the beach volleyball players, and almost everyone else). And I know in each of these sports I could find a way to watch them more than once every four years, there is no way to watch them all in one place, in one two week period except for the Olympics. (And I don’t even watch that much of the Olympics and I love that I can just turn it on a bunch of times during the games and catch something pretty cool nearly every time.)
I recall when I was a kid watching the medal count and rooting for the USA. Now, I don’t care. I just enjoy watching amazing performances. I do get caught up in some of the individual stories, but mostly I just want to see great things happen, and humble winners.
I feel bad for the losers, becasue they put so much emphasis into winning, but I hope that they can walk away knowing that whether or not they win gold, or any medal, they have each accomplished an incredible thing simply by making it to the Olympics. I know if right now you offered me the chance to be able to say for the rest of my life that I was in the Olympics, I would love that, but for a young person to accept just that when they were hoping to say, “I won a gold medal at the Olympics” takes maturity and perspective. I hope their parents and coaches can help them to have that perspective.
Enjoy the rest of the games.
Best regards.
David
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Hey there David,
I am so viscerally affected by excellence. I love music that’s played at that level, with musicians who produce amazing work. I love reading about the business successes who took an idea and worked it into a successful corporation. I love artistic excellence and the character excellence of the Gandhis and Mother Teresas of the world. So I’m with you on loving the Games because of the level of ability. We were watching the men’s beach volleyball yesterday and I was just floored by the way they could return and block some of those shots. Simply amazing.
I hope they do recognize the supreme accomplishment it is simply being an Olympian. Such a statement of excellence in and of itself. So far, most of the interviews of those expected to take gold who didn’t have seemed pretty darned mature. I also wonder about some whose parents and coaches may not have their hearts in the right place. Hope that number is very near zero.
I only watch TV once every 4 years, and that’s because of the olympics!
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Just finished watching some track events. The power, grace and speed is just jaw-dropping!
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Such an inspiring post, Ken. I can see some of myself in these athletes and I truly share their pain and wish them success. Thanks for putting this together. I’m watching the games as we speak.
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Thanks Anne!
One of the moments I love most is when they show the parents of the athletes as they score or finish first. It’s just priceless!
Do you have a favorite event? I think I enjoy the swimming, volleyball and gymnastics most … so far.
wow, i really loved that post
the examples are also so inspiring
my last post was about Oscar Pistorius , the fastest Amputee in the world
keep it up ken
Oscar is such an inspiration of the human spirit to excel no matter what the obstacles in life. It reminds me of the artists born without arms so they use their feet. Thanks for reminding us about Oscar’s inspiring story, Farouk!
I was moved by all these stories, and intrigued by Marial’s. I had no idea you could compete independent of a country. I have had the honor to know three people who competed in different events in different years in the Olympics. I think it shapes who you are for the rest of your life.
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Wow, Galen! With Olympians being such a statistical minority, it’s surprising you know three. I can hardly imagine such a thing failing to permanently change an athlete. I think athletics in general changes us, but to summon the dedication and drive, the commitment and passion it takes to go THAT far and to imbibe the spirit of the Olympic Games as well must have a profound effect on participants.
They certainly have an inspiring affect on us!
I know–it is unusual. When I was a girl, I rode horses with an older girl who competed in the equestrian events in the Olympics. One of my taekwondo instructors is Nepalese. She was a world champion and competed for Nepal in the Olympics. And a woman I studied Shambhala meditation with last year won a gold medal for the US in swimming when she was young. I knew her (the swimmer) for a long time before someone else told me about her early fame. Maybe many of us know Olympians and we are just unaware!
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So interesting, Galen! I wonder what percent of Olympians gravitate to the top of their fields in industry, sports, medicine, service or whatever. They certainly have a fine-tuned a work-ethic to a sharpened point.
So, Olympians walking around amongst us, huh? Could be! I actually dated a girl way back when who was training for the Olympics in the backstroke, but never pursued it to the end. But her coach had pushed her in that direction because she was that good, evidently. My taekwondo instructor (back millions of years ago when I was young enough!) asked me to train for the Olympics back in the mid 1990s, if I remember correctly. But as far as I know, I’ve been no closer to Olympians than that. But then again, who knows, right?
Hi Ken
Thanks for the stories behind the victories. never knew that. i watched full two weeks of olympics. It spurred my passion for sport once more. i used to play basketball and sprint. and stopped after a while. i dont intend to be an olympian but at least it gave me more motivation to do more exercise for my own health. the discipline and structure i used to have is coming back to me 🙂
Noch NOch
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So good to see you again, Noch Noch! I watched so many hours of the Olympics too! The TV was always on, usually while we did other things … until something intense or a great game or race or whatever came on, then all eyes were fixed. Even my 6-year-old son got into the Games, cheering and rooting and chanting for his favorites. It was so cute!
Discipline and structure can be stifling if too rigid, but extremely helpful if it provides enough that we can get more done and feel better about the day and how we used it.
But there is no denying the important of regular exercise to our health — physical, mental, emotional and otherwise! No Olympian here either, but enjoy the gym and the occasional run (when my knees let me!)
Dear Ken,
Thank you for this inspiring post. I just recently came across your website as I have been looking for ways to motivate myself again. I have just returned back home from the Olympic Games as an athlete (I raced in the women’s triathlon for South Africa) and while I really did enjoy the whole experience of the amazing London Olympics, the race itself was a massive disappointment as I put my heart and soul into a four year plan, so I could peak on the day. I was in peak condition and then on the day, I unfortunately came down in crash during the cycle leg.. I was bitterly disappointed but I just have to believe that it was not meant to be my day to shine and there are bigger and better things planned for me in the future and I am excited about that. But to go back to your post and other posts that you have blogged about,for that matter. Thank you for putting it all into perspective for me.. Yes, I was disappointed but at the end of the day as you have pointed out, no one can take away that I am a double Olympian and I am so grateful that I was given the wonderful opportunity to be able to fulfill my dreams.
Thank you Ken and I cannot wait to read your other posts.
Kind Regards,
Kate Roberts
Kate,
Thank you so much for sharing such a frustrating part of an amazing journey. I’m honored and flattered you found something of value here and that you took the time to share it with us. You truly are an inspiration.
This is the way an outsider looks at it, Kate. You are among the 22 top triathletes in the world. Even if the number was closer to 100, that’s still a huge accomplishment. Think of the 7.something billion people who can’t say that.
In other words, you are already an amazing athlete of incredible accomplishment. There are untold millions of girls and boys who have worked hard to be Olympians and never were. That of itself is an incredible victory. And a double Olympian to boot! You set a goal. You worked your butt off to reach it. And really, even though the race didn’t go the way you planned it, what an accomplishment it is to have represented your nation at the World Olympics. The experiences you have. The people you’ve met. The places you’ve gone. The person you are. These have been shaped by your experiences in both preparing for and competing in the events in London. There are a miniscule number of people who have done what you have done, who have the memories and experiences and developed the dedication and work ethic you have developed.
Money can’t buy what your sport has provided you with.
Having said that, I understand the agony of something like a crash you didn’t cause and couldn’t escape. It removed the satisfaction of being able to say, “Well, at least I gave it all I had and came in 22nd.” Yours likely feels more like a robbery, the opportunity to have finished in the top 10 taken from you. Unfair. Out of your control. Such feelings can be difficult to deal with. They are also natural and understandable.
But if you can step back a few paces and put it all into proper perspective, seeing the race and the crash and the placing as one moment and one event in a lifetime of other moments and events, it may provide you with enough clarity to feel more gratitude than frustration. After all, you weren’t just preparing for an Olympic race, you were building a character, shaping a personality, constructing a person. You were making a better you as you ran and biked and swam and learned and overcame and pushed and stretched and persevered and worked and worked and worked and worked.
I guess the point I’m hoping to make is that your training and dedication and preparation was not in vain. It made you who you are today. And that’s a whole lot to feel really good about, whether 4 years from now you are doing it again or not. In the larger scheme of things, you are still a double Olympian. But more importantly, you are the person you started constructing in those early days in those early hours on the bike, in the water and tying your shoes before a run.
Perhaps the point isn’t to win Gold at the Olympics, but to earn the Gold in your heart, to push yourself to your best, to become who you can become, not measured by a medal, but measured by an internal sense that you are a better person for having chased a goal even if the goal didn’t turn out the way you hoped and prepared it to be.
I truly hope you find the motivation and inspiration you’re looking for, Kate. I would love to hear from you again and hope you find what you’re looking for as you wander around the articles here at Meant to be Happy.
Thank you for inspiring me and everyone else who watched you do what you do with excellence and grace.
Thanks so much Ken,
Your response made my day and I really appreciate the kind words of motivation. I am feeling so much better, happier and more a peace with what happened!
You are indeed a Superhero to me and I thank you so much for that!
I will be in touch and I am so thrilled to have stumbled upon your website, we need more people like you in this world!
Best wishes to you and your family.
Kate
So glad you’re feeling better, Kate. And thanks for the kind words. They mean a lot to me. Thank you for the well-wishes to my family as well.
You’re an inspiration to many, many people, Kate. That’s an awesome thing.