“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” ~ John F. Kennedy
Those who withhold gratitude, waiting for others to do something worthy of its expression, miss the point of gratitude altogether.
Gratitude is not reflected in what happens to us, or how others treat us, or in the good deed someone does for us.
It is something we carry with us into every moment of life. It’s an attitude, a way of looking at the world and interpreting events and interacting with others. It’s a habitual way of being, a character trait that elevates us and blesses others.
Following, then, are ways you and I can start adding more gratitude to our lives.
20 Ways to Live more Gratefully
Living gratitude is no more complex than practicing gratitude. It is like habituating anything: The more it’s done, the more we automatically do it. Counting our blessings, naming them, writing them, identifying them is a good start. But there’s more we can do. This is a list of 20 suggestions to up your gratitude. Try them out and see what happens.
1. Send a note of appreciation to a friend.
2. Ask to see the manager at a store or restaurant where you were served particularly well and compliment your server or clerk.
3. Thank a cop (or fireman, or soldier) for the protection they provide.
4. Mail your spouse a Thank-You note (even if handing it to her would be easier).
5. Double your efforts to teach your child to say thank-you (it will increase the amount of gratitude in the world by at least one).
6. Bake some cookies for a neighbor with a note thanking them for being such wonderful people.
7. Notice the little things you usually overlook.
8. Stop taking your spouse (children, parents, whoever) for granted.
9. Say a prayer asking for nothing, only giving thanks for all you’ve been blessed with.
10. Start a gratitude list or journal, adding daily to the list until you have at least 100 things you’re grateful for.
11. Share your list with family or friends (and challenge them to beat you).
12. Do a good deed every day this month as a way to thank God or Life for all the good in your life.
13. Find something good to say about everyone you meet today.
14. Overcome the nasty habit to complain.
15. Say things like, “Thank you so much, I really appreciate that!” instead of grunting an almost inaudible, “Thanks” in passing.
16. Smile and wave when a car lets you in.
17. When you hear someone say something critical about another person, say, “Perhaps, but …” (then add words that are kinder and more forgiving)
18. Thank a stranger who smiles or says hello or lets you go in front of them in line. Tell them how much they made your day (it will make theirs).
19. Be more specific in your expressions of gratitude. Instead of saying, “Thanks for dinner.” Say, “Thanks so much for taking the time to put this amazing meal together. It really means a lot to me. I’ve been a bit stressed lately and you continue to be such a source of joy to me. Thank you for that.”
20. If you forget to say thank-you, don’t let it pass. Go back and thank those you should thank, even if hours or days later.
21 (free bonus): Tell us what you’re thankful for in the comments below.
Final Thought
The benefits of gratitude are stunning: greater happiness, more success, closer friends, happier marriages, less stress, richer joys, healthier hearts, improved lives. So let’s start today to do more to develop habitual gratitude. Let’s begin today to express our gratitude in the most sincere way. Let’s do something to express how thankful we are. Let’s live gratitude.
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Thanks for the reminder. Too many times I forget all the things I have and need to be grateful for instead of focusing on those that I do not have.
We all do, Rose. I don;t know if you’re a praying person or not, but I like to reserve a prayer from time to time to only express my gratitude for all I’ve been blessed with. It keeps my blessings forefront in my mind, actually FEELING grateful more often. But if you’re not the praying type, keeping a gratitude journal or ritually listing (on paper or electronically or mentally) all you’re thankful for can be a powerful way to remind yourself regularly that your life is so filled with so much we often take for granted. Thanks for sharing here, Rose. Have a wonderful gratitude-filled day!
Hello Ken,
I just discovered your website. I noticed it in the top 100 self improvement blogs and thought I’d have a look :).
I really like this article about showing gratitude. I think it is something that a lot of us overlook. We get caught up in our daily lives and we are to busy with ourselves that we forget to be grateful.
Personally I think that being grateful can make a big difference in the world and have an amazing positive impact on the lives of of people. And it doesn’t have to something big. Just a “thank you” note, a friendly smile, a tiny present or saying “I love you” or “I really love having you in my life” can make such a big difference.
Thank you for sharing this and I will keep following you! If you have some time, you are more than welcome to visit my blog :-).
Warm regards,
Bastiaan
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You’re so right, Bastiaan. How often do we actually and consciously feel grateful for air. Or water. Or the sense of touch and sight and for teeth and flowers and the color blue. So much of life is taken for granted. We see its effects when we take people for granted. People get angry and distance themselves. Marriages dissolve over it. But we’re affected by taking others and life and all that’s beautiful about it for granted too. We limit the amount of awe we feel for the intricacy of life, the miracle of life. We dampen our sense of joy, our happiness and wonder.
And you’re right on about the simplicity of a note or a word of gratitude being enough to lift us and others. Too often, we walk through life with heads down, eyes flitting here and there and minds off on something else. We fail to see what’s right here in front of us. But it doesn’t have to be like that. You’re solution to it is perfect. Keep it up, Bastiaan. So glad you found us here at Meant to be Happy! Look forward to hearing from you again!
Ken, this is a great list. One of your items reminded me that I need to pen a letter to the local supermarket management telling them how a teen cashier handled a sticky situation with a cranky customer with maturity and grace.
In the meantime, thanks for YOU and for what you do here. I’ve been reading you for probably almost as long as I’ve been blogging (not that it’s all that long…but still) and so much of what you write here has helped me through a period of great difficulty for our family and for me personally. Happy to report that things are moving along in a much better fashion than when I first read here. The power of positive thinking is great and I thank you for having so much of that here.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!
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Thanks Lisa. It really is one of my favorite things to do. I look for opportunities to ask for a manager to compliment someone. The look on their faces is great. After doing it for so many years (decades?), I’ve come to realize that very few managers ever get called over for positive reasons. Most people complain and want to right an injustice, get someone reprimanded, demand justice for some slight or disservice. So when I ask to see a manager and I start to tell them how wonderful an employee was, their faces just light up, the almost visibly breathe out a sigh of relief. I just love it!
I have not always been a great responder to comments left here at M2bH. Life can dog-pile once in a while and I find I have to sometimes choose between cutting out yet another hour of sleep or spend it on my blog. But I have always felt deeply moved by those who share their thoughts here and those who don’t, but take the time to read what I have to say. So thank YOU, Lisa. I love reading your comments. Always so thoughtful, wise and relevant. There have been countless times that I’ve read something you’ve said and thought, “Perfect! I should have included that idea in my post!” So while I have not always replied to comments, I’ve always read them. You help add value to the words I share.
Thank you so much for this wonderful article. It is sometimes sad to know that other people take simple things for granted. Gratitude is one of the greatest virtues that we should practice, It gives us a different meaning of life, so simple yet so true. Great reminder for all.
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I love that you call gratitude a virtue, Sheryl. I absolutely agree with you. Ingratitude is a character flaw and gratitude is one of the most beautiful character traits I know of. The science of happiness has found a direct link between our regular expression of gratitude and the level of happiness we experience in life. The more we take the time to feel and express gratitude for all the things we would otherwise take for granted, the happier we are.
PS: Have a wonderfully grateful New Year! 🙂
Thank you for 21 great ways to be grateful!
My pleasure, Steve. Have an amazing day and grateful New Year!
Very inspiring message. Yes let us live our lives by practicing gratitude. With gratitude we are able to live healthier and happier lives. Our outlook in life is more positive and we are able to share our disposition with others.
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You said it perfectly, Lynne (as usual!) 🙂
Healthier, happier, more positive and approachable. Not bad conditions for the simple habit of gratitude!
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This article reminds me on how to be grateful everyday. It’s how we think and how we think. Stay positive always.
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Gratitude, in many ways, is the art of being positive. It’s looking for what there is to be grateful about in all we do and experience. The attitude of gratitude is the mindset that habitually finds good in bad, sunshine just beyond the cloudy day, beauty where everyone else sees only drab misery.
Thanks for sharing that Sherri. There is such a powerful link between positivity and gratitude. The one can’t be experienced without the other.
It’s so important to remember to be grateful for everything we have in life. Even the things we judge to be negative can still turn out to be positives we can learn to be grateful for.
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I love the title of your site. Life is a miracle. Friendship is a miracle. So is love and happiness, compassion and rainbows, color, sound, music and laughter. When we can see the miraculous smack dab in the middle of the everydayness of life, we have opened a door onto a new kind of happiness that is pervasive and encompassing.
It is then that the negative often (even if not always!) becomes positive because we can see the growth buried in the trial, the refinement inside the adversity, the character development within the pain of the moment.
Wise words. Thanks so much for sharing them here. Have a happy, wonderful and miraculous New Year! 🙂
I am thankful for this excellent list that I will be sure to share. I have found this simple philosophy to be true…the more thankful you are, even for the smallest things, the more you will be given to appreciate 🙂
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Thanks Joe. Such an important lesson to learn too! I’m convinced that there is no more important trait to acquire in life that will do more than any other single trait to boost happiness than gratitude. So good to see you here, Joe. Have an amazing New Year!
This is an awesome list Ken. It’s nice to a specific list of things that people can do to live more gratefully. Can’t wait to read more
Mr. Wert! It’s been a while! I get the email updates but haven’t left any feedback. I definitely agree showing more gratitude would improve our outlook, improve other’s days, etc. Working on number 14, need to try 2, 9 and 19.
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Happiness is about staying longer on one of the good thought. I love to think about anything and what i start to think, i either end up with an good idea or feeling of knowingness means i appriciate it and i totally own it ( if its a car , i am powerful enough and i can make it manifest in my life ).
So the gratitude also help in improving our source energy which gets build up when you look at yourself – in totally how you see youself from inside !! And taking path to gratitude, we learn to know SELF where everything get revealed.
IF you think, something isn’t possible, then don’t stop.. just keep it someone near to your thoughtful life !! ,. it will get revealed one day and you will discover it.
As like..many of you aren’t reading because you believe it , but you are reading because you have hope. This hope is result of the question that you had ever.
Good luck !